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I really like this girl, but have no idea what to do
I've known this girl since the beginning of college. To me, she was like no other. During orientation, everyone was walking around, talking, running, and when I saw her, everything stopped for a moment and I only saw her. Since then, I couldn't stop thinking about her. I got to know her and for the first few months, we actually got pretty close. For the first time in a long time, she made me happy. But there was one major problem. She had a boyfriend. Since she knew I liked her and wanted to be with her she grew distant of me. Any attempts I made to even talk to her were stopped. So I gave up and grew depressed. Went like this for a few months..up until February. We came back from winter vacation and we're all together in a room (me her, and two other friends) and she tells us her boyfriend broke up with her..through a letter. She told us that about a week from Valentine's so I went and get her flowers and all that stuff. She called me a dork (which was a good thing) and said she was flattered. But she didn't want a relationship just yet (and I get that) but to not wait for her to be ready. Now we're getting close yet again, but one of my friends (who's closer to her than I am) say's she just being friendly. I would think he's right, but what does that mean for me? Should I give up completely, or "wait" for the opportunity with her? Mind you, she's the only person whose opinion I actually care about. She's the first to actually make me try to be with her (I've never had a girlfriend) and she's the first to make me..happy. I don't know what to do anymore. Should I just get over her (which I'm trying to do, isn't working out too well) Or should I wait for my chance while at the same time not letting other opportunities pass me by (Like I'd get any) like she wants me to?
Sorry for the long question, but I really had to explain everything to avoid getting the same response I've gotten from other people. I'd appreciate all the help received.
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If she told you not to wait, uh...dont wait then.
You can just be casual with her, but if thats just going to keep you from "getting over" her then maybe you shouldnt even do that.
Find you a hot girl, forget that fool, have some confidence in yourself gosh!!!!
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Don't wait for her. She told you that you shouldn't wait and there's probably a reason for that.
If the time does come and she might be ok with trying things with you, then fine, go ahead. But right now, you should just move on.
You said you have been trying to get over her but not succeeding? Well, you shouldn't spend a lot of time around her. You should find other things and hang out with other friends that make you happy. I know you said you're not normally happy but honestly, you shouldn't let a girl be the thing that makes you happy. You need to go out and find something else that will get your mind off her until you meet another girl who will really be into you as you were into her.
But number one, don't say that you can't get over her or that you'll never get over her. You will if you actually try.
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you should wait and see and keep being friendly with her but dont give up on any chances and options that might come to you.
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