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i hooked up with someone and now idk about anything
15/f two nights ago i hooked up (made out) with an older guy he was my first kiss/hook up and i was wasted really bad to the point where i couldn't walk straight but i hooked up with him and it was fine and now there was a lot of people there and my friends know about it and when we go back to school on monday i dont want it to be awkward between me and this guy. like i have never talked to him before at all but we knew of each other and then it just happened but he texted me and asked me to hangout again and i said i couldnt and said i just want it to be one night thing. but if i see him again i dont want it to be awkward how do i make it not awkward? thankyouu
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I assume the guy is at your school and you might meet-up? So simply avoiding him until it's 'old news' and long forgotten isn't an option. I'm afraid you've just got to tell him it isn't going to happen. There's no need to be unduly unkind about it, but you do have to be forceful. Avoid saying 'can't/couldn't see you'...use 'won't/don't want to see you'. It lessens the chance of misunderstanding or him getting a vibe that you want to but don't think you should etc. Try to suggest the drink made you go further than you would have, not that you only fancied him at all because you were off your face (even if that's true...bite your tongue a bit!). It's going to FEEL awkward, but his take on the meeting is going to largely depend on how well you front it out and keep your awkwardness dark. If you can, YOU approach HIM and start the dialogue off yourself when you chance to meet. That will tend to put you in the box seat for the rest of the encounter. When the penny drops and he realises that it was a one-off...end of story...he might be upset if he's really keen on you. Keep in mind it could have meant more to him than it did to you. So...hate to say it...there might be a bit of name calling and a few insults flying around. Keep you cool and try to rise above it. Avoid taking the bait. You're just looking to draw a line under the event and move on with as little fuss as possible, right? And finally, admit (but ONLY to YOURSELF!) that you did have a hand in causing it mate! Don't start gushing a million aplologies or you'll lose your high-ground completely! Just ONE 'Sorry if I hurt you in any way by letting it happen' type comment, no more. Best wishes!
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