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End it or risk it?
I've been dating a guy long distance for over a year. He wants me to stay with him for awhile so we can work on our relationship. He doesn't want to do long distance anymore so if I don't come, he's going to break up with me. However, I have bills to pay and feel like it would be too difficult to. He said he can help me out with things until I find a job. But he's always saying how broke he is. And I don't know if he would even be able to really help me. I try talking to him about it, but he just says not to worry. Advice?
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My advice is to discuss your concerns with him. Be honest about how you feel about the financial situation. Long-distance relationships aren't easy, but there is no guarantee that by moving in with him, things will progress the way you want them to. You are right to be concerned that he is not financially stable, and honestly, I don't think it's wise to depend on him or anyone else to help you get back on your feet. It sounds like he is using this as a way to get you to move closer to him, without thinking about whether he's realistically able to support you for some time. I suggest you take care of your debt and find a job on your own terms. If you really want to be with him, you could discuss the option of paying your bills/debt first, before you commit to moving. If he is supportive and understanding, he will support your decision. If not, then he is probably not worth your time. It's a two-way street, you both need to come to an agreement--things can't just progress on his terms alone.
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