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How do I get a girlfriend?! The constant rejection is really beginning to take a toll...
Every girl I liked or had a crush on:
1.) Didn't like me
2.)Already has som eone
3.)They would just not hang out more or just flaked when things were getting serious.
Constant rejection is really taking a toll on my self-esteem. Its gotten worse I don't see any reason to keep myself fit or keep trying. I feel like something must be wrong with me!
I just can't understand what I'm very open, love to talk to new people,and I like to think I'm attractive. Why is it then I'm not having any luck? And I've tried dating websites they just made me feel worse b/c I know no one has bothered to even look at my profile:( so what should I do?
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Perhaps you hit it on the nose there without realizing the answer to your question was starring back at you.
Being honest is a good thing but perhaps you're being too open and too soon with your partner or divulging things you should keep under wraps longer if not never mention.
You want to appear to be private and have a level of mystery to you. Definitely tone done on the openness as that may be oft-putting to your potential partner.
If a woman already has someone that's not your fault or to feel bad about later. Also, if someone turned you down it doesn't mean they don't like who you are as a person. It may mean that they felt from a romantic standpoint that you wouldn't jive.
I also have a feeling that you don't let things unfold with friendship or relationship on its own and may be inadvertently pressuring or smothering these girls with constant need to hang-out and that may be why they are bailing. You're probably moving too fast whereas it needs to come slower.
There's nothing mentally or physically wrong with you. I can assure you of that. What you should do though is find a therapist to talk to and explain in detail and honestly that you can't get on with girls and always end up rejected after things reach a certain point or they aren't interested to begin with.
Maybe they can help you with social and other aspects. You need it. The other thing is maybe you are targeting the wrong type of girl or a so-called popular type or for certain physical attributes.
Look right in front of you to make sure you haven't overlooked someone and also look to girls who have the qualities not necessarily the looks you desire and find a partner there as often they are long lasting.
The worst thing you could do for your health let alone potential love-life is to become overweight, stop caring for your appearance, hygiene etc. over this because sure enough if the right person comes along they may not be in to someone who doesn't value himself.
Dating web sites aren't a good idea and if nobody read yours it has nothing to do with who you are but rather that your number 1 million in a system of all those profiles. Often people on those sites are pretty frigging scary but there are those like you. Don't give up on the face-to-face relationship though as one day the right person will come and click with you perfectly.
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Well I am a girl in the same predicament. However, being a girl, I know some of what they like. First, make sure you are hygenic, clean, and look nice. Second, just start off as friends. Third, be sweet, or romantic. (Just a tad, don't go desparate)Last, do be arrogant or poke at her too much, it will annoy her. You will find some one some day. I wish you luck!
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