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Told a girl he's not ready for a relationship? Excuse or no?
18/f Ok, so I've been working at my job for about 6 months now, and there's this guy (he's 21)... He and I have been talking a lot over these past few months. It's kinda gone through stages, like at first he just plain teased me, and we weren't at all that close. Then he started bugging me more and more, and that bugging turned into playful teasing. Then he started hardcore flirting with me. Now he's acting very sweet, and teasing a bit too. My coworkers make fun of him for how obvious he is. Like he says "Only for you." a lot, says things like "Lisa, you make me smile." and goes "Liiiiisa, you should massage me~", and I fake scold him, blah-blah. Well, after knowing me for sometime now, he's discovered I'm a Christian, and that I'm "innocent", as he likes to put it. Also that I'm pretty serious about relationships. But he still keeps flirting with me regardless. And it's like, hardcore too xD! He knows I disapprove of drugs, cigarettes, alcohol, etc., so he kinda brags about how he quit smoking, doesn't drink anymore, stuff like that. He hasn't asked me out yet, and at first I thought he was just being a player, flirting 'cuz he's bored or something, but then I thought, maybe he's trying to take it slow?
The problem is, I was recently chatting with a girl at work, and she said she went on a few dates with him around 6 months ago when she first started (before I started working there). She said a friend hooked them up. Well after those few dates, he told her that he had recently gotten out of a 4 year relationship with a girl, and that he wasn't ready for another relationship, so he stopped seeing her. He doesn't talk to her at all, ever. Now I'm worried... I'm wondering if he just used that line as an excuse, or if he actually meant it. If he did mean it then, would he still mean it now? If he finally asks me out sometime, will the same thing happen to me? Why would he flirt with me, knowing that I'm a relationship gal? What are your guys' opinions? Thank you~
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Considering he told the girl at work that, 6 months ago, he might actually want to move on. I know when people break up from a relationship and they're pretty stressed about it, they don't really go flirting with the world. I don't think you should use the girl's input over your own. I mean, don't just void it completely, but just remember it and keep it in the back of your mind but continue to do what makes you happy. If he knows you're the relationship type of girl and he's a good guy, then he will or should let you know what his deal is, or at least he should ask.
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