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Blow job questions!!! EEEKKKK!!!
Hey everyone!im a freshman girl at a catholic high school and i would say im an overall pretty "good" girl. i mean i talk to alot of guys and am considered "popular" but anyway, i have been sating a guy for a little over 4 months now and i recently gave him a blow job. before, he has fingered me and ive given him a handjob. how often is it healthy to give blowjobs and what are the health risks from doing this and with fingering to. also would i be considered a "slut"? im totally loyal to him and i really like him. i would NEVER consider losing my virginity at this age with him though!!! is it bad im giving him blowjobs???is it to soon? HELP!!! thanks :) xoxox
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Hi there,
There is a lot of confusion about virginity these days. You have to consider what virginity is FOR.
When you are a virgin, you are 100% free of sexual diseases as well as the emotional baggage that goes along with sexual relationships. (The all get complicated, trust me on this one... sexual activity ALWAYS complicates things.)
Basically, if virginity was about having a hymen... then boys could never be virgins. Makes sense, eh?
Now, you have to ask yourself if you are doing anything that will expose you to STDs...
Are you?
Well, you can get Everything from HPV (Genital warts/cancer) to HIV from oral sex.
A young woman who posted a question on here a few months back got HERPES on her face and in her mouth from giving exactly one bj to a guy she was dating. They both considered themselves virgins.
He, had been with other girls orally, and other girls (including the one who gave him the herpes she ended up with) had performed oral sex on him.
So, now that you know what virginity really is... you have already given your own to this boy you are dating.
You exposed yourself to any diseases he is carrying. If you have been with other boys in ANY way, then you have also exposed him to any diseases you may be carrying.
Fingering/HJ is also a great way to end of with herpes and especially HPV.
That pretty much covers the health risks.
As for it making you a slut, I would ask you to pick up a dictionary and have a look at the definition of that word. It will be good for you to read it. I think you will be surprised.
Please slow things down. If you want to find out how this guy really feels about you, then stop having sexual contact with him... and see what happens.
You have made a decision you can't take back, but that doesn't mean you have to continue risking your health just because the "deed" is already done.
I noticed you didn't even say that you were in love with him. Sit down and think about that for a minute. When you do find someone you love... you will, unless you are a liar, have to tell them that you have already exposed yourself to sexual diseases several times... with a guy you only liked.
Wouldn't it be better to be able to tell the person you fall in love with that you realized what you did wasn't the best idea and you stopped once you found out the risks?
Just a thought.
P.S. As a guy who's wife lied to him about being a virgin... the truth ALWAYS comes out eventually. Took 10 years to come out in our situation, but it did, so best not to lie to the next guy... just make smarter choices.
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