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How do I regain his interest?
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My boyfriend for about 7 months and he doesn't seem to be interested as much anymore. He's not affectionate like he used to be, he never really wants to spend time with me, he always used to say "yes" when I had plans for us but now he says "I'll let you know" he never texts me, I used to wake up with good morning texts and he never does that... I text him first every day but he seems like he can't be bothered with me anymore, the way he's texting. I've asked time and time if there's anything at all wrong and he says there's nothing, we have been arguing a lot lately because of this, I say he's changed. I say I'm done, but I come back and ask him for another chance, and it seems like it's my fault, but is it? Then he says keep saying you're done with me, I'm not taking you back. But now after the last time I said it, we sorted it and everything but now it's still totally different, if I say anything about why he's being different, he's going to think I'm causing an argument when I'm not, I've asked him plenty of times and he says there's nothing wrong, but there is, I can feel it in the way we speak.
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This kind of things does happen in relationships. I don't think it's your fault the relationship became this way. I don't think it's his either.
I'm sure he does notice what he's doing but since you bring it up to him all the time, he's too stubborn to change it.
My advice is to give him space and don't argue.
I don't know how often you guys hang out. If you hang out every day, only make plans with him once a week unless he brings it up. Don't text him first anymore and eventually he'll realize it and ask you what's up. Don't argue with him but just explain that you're not feeling loved anymore.
Just don't fight or argue with him. Couples shouldn't have to do that. It will happen from time to time but it's definitely not necessary. Keep calm and let him come to you again.
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Here's just a thought: read your text above, and then think about how much fun spending time with you must be. I'm not being snarky or trying to insult you, but it sounds like the time you two spend together is full of tension and unmet (and probably unmeetable) expectations. Tension, drama, and demands wear men out.
You ask him if something is wrong, he says no. You keep asking him, and you are convinced he's not telling you something. Maybe he's telling the truth, maybe not. Either way, that continual challenging is not fun for him. Even if you're not saying anything now, he can probably still pick up the vibe from you that you don't believe him.
If you truly like being with him, like him as a person, enjoy who he is, etc. Then try to find ways to make your time together and your communication enjoyable and pleasant and desirable for him.
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