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I seriously need help asap !!
Okay m a 18 year old gal.. Everything in my life is falling apart.. !! My parents have grounded me.. taken away all my freedom.. which includes my cell being confiscated and i cant even go to college alone. All this crap has taken a toll on my relationship.. i really love this guy but m afraid because of my restrictions he might leave me.. I juz wanna die.. Wanna know ways how to do dat since m crying all he time asking god to take my life.. What are the best ways to die ??
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None of us will tell you how to die, that is not what we do here. We will help you live and resolve problems as that is what we do here.
I don't understand how your parents can do what you have written they have done to you. Legally speaking at 18 years of age they can't do that. You are an adult now responsible for yourself. The flip side of that coin is that they are no longer responsible for you either and no longer have to house you, feed you or pay college expenses.
They can also not control you with the threat of disowning you and taking away your freedoms if you don't do as they say. For that is the same as holding you against your will a felony in most states.
Both you and your parents have to be mindful of the law in your relationship with each other especially your parents as you are in the eyes of the law an adult.
For instance if your cell phone is in your name and you pay the bill for it, even if it is from an allowance they give you. Then they have not confiscated your cell phone they have stolen it. The value of most cell phones is in access of between $200 and $500 dollars making this a criminal charge and could also be a felony depending on the law in your state.
Now don't go calling the police and filing charges, I don't think this is what you want to do. I believe the police will probably see this as a domestic situation and refer you to civil court if you did call them.
What I believe you need to do is talk with your parents and advise them or remind then you are no longer a child and they can not treat you this way any longer. There are laws to protect you just as much as when you were a child in their care.
If this is all over a boy you are seeing who they don't care for. There is nothing they can do about it other than get themselves in trouble should they continue to hold you hostage and steal from you.
Your parents need to understand you are an adult entitled to all the privileges of an adult just as they have. You still need to be respectful of them and to take there concerns into consideration when they have then. Understanding that they are far more worldly then you are and will see things you don't see.
In the end though you are the one left to make the choices. All we can do as parents is try to point you in the right direction and be there for you when things go wrong and help you get back on your feet and headed in the write direction.
This is a big adjustment for many parents as we have spent the last 18 years telling you what you can and cannot do. It is hard for many of us to suddenly just switch gears and give advice and not have it taken with nothing we can do about it.
You need to have a talk with your parents to make them aware of this. Possibly with another adult of their age acting as moderator.
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Hold on for a while now . Take a deep , deep breath and grasp yourself and sorry , i won't share the methods for you to die gracefully or commit a suicide because to me , every person is special and one is delivered forth to this world for a purpose and you are included . Do believe that everything happens for a reason . People change so that you can learn to let go , things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right , you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself , and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.
I'm absolutely sure that your parents are grounding you with supporting evidences because of the fact they love you , and they want their beautiful daughter to learn from her mistakes so that she'll become more dignified . Perceive all of these ordeals as experiences to make you a stronger person because life's never always about excitement and joy and when a problem arises , deal with it instead of making an escapade .
Problems are temporary , and even the most successful person has endured the most excruciating , painful problems in his life which simultaneously means that you too , can eliminate the maelstrom within . Please , don't give up yet you're still too young . You only have one chance of life , and some people are fighting for their lives the best way they can . 'Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.' Remember , problems are always there but the good thing is , they're also always temporary and to every of them , there's a solution .
Regarding your boyfriend , don't be afraid . Don't depend on him to give you full happiness because happiness is created within you and don't be afraid of what's not happening yet . He'll bear anything to be with you , and even if he leaves , be strong as it denotes that God is reserving you for a better person . I'm telling you the truth , so please be strong for now and forever . Instead of praying to God to take your life away , pray to Him to give you strength , hope and success or guidance as long as you work for it .
Stop crying now , you're already special and life may give you difficulties now , but certainly it will grant you happiness later . Please , be strong , be strong , BE STRONG and find solutions to your problems . You can go through this with courage . Be patient :)
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