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feel weird after cuddling and making out with a guy I am not attracted to.
Last night I had my first hookup. I'm actually not sure whether it can be considered a hookup even. it was with this guy I've been hanging out with. We cuddled, made out and he slept in my bed. I pretty much slept terribly and woke up very early, just feeling like, suffocated. The truth is, I'm just really not into him. He really doesn't have any traits that attract me on a personal level but he's so nice and good-looking. So why am I not attracted to him? I thought I'd love this experience. I fantasize about men all the time and this was my one and only chance and I feel strange?I've been so craving of male intimacy lately, but is it still too far beyond my comfort zone for me to handle? I thought I was ready. What is wrong with me? I don't get it
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I don't think there is anything wrong with you at all. You have been craving male intimacy for so long that you took advantage of the situation. This happens a lot with people and is a one-night stand ad both move on. If he hasn't let him know that while you enjoyed the experience you just didn't feel a connection after.
Then after that be on guard not to rush into things or only be intimate with who your gut says is right. You felt wrong because it's not in your nature to act on these feelings.
It doesn't make you awful for doing so as you needed to feel wanted and experience that level of intimacy. Just tell him because of a painful experience in the past that although you enjoyed what you were doing at the time you felt as though you weren't ready for it or a relationship.
If he's a nice guy he will understand and remain a friend.
Then again maybe you were ready but just afraid and not being able to allow yourself to go there or enjoy what was happening or feel worthy of the intimacy or any other irrational thought. It may be worth your while to get a therapist and try and find out why it all seems so much out of your comfort zone.
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