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Troubling Strengthening Friendships
I have friends, but the only one's i'm actually close with are people who ive spent a lot of time around. for example, my friends are from class and a few people are on my floor in my dorm. i feel like the only way i make real friends is when im forced to be with a person all of the time. that leaves me with few options since i go to a few places: class and my dorm. I have met people outside of that, like parties and through other people, but haven't had an opportunity to get close enough to them to ask for their number or pursue any kind of friendship. I also hate being the one pursuing the other person, it makes me feel desperate in a way. to top it all off, i'm a terrible texter. I kind of just feel like i'm in a rut. any advice would help, thanks
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Hello :) Don't worry yourself too much and take a deep breath. My answer will be long, but bear with me. You see, eventhough this world is big, it is filled with acquiantances mostly, not real friends. To have a friend who's going to be with you through thick and thin, it's not easy and it also requires you to be a true friend to anyone or everyone too. Try being friendly, listen to people's problems and comfort them if possible. They'll never forget you and would also be delighted to return the favour. Smile to everyone. Don't be selective in choosing friends because they might appear from just anywhere in your life but the thing is, you too need to be a friend to the people around you. When the time's right, you can ask for their number if there's a 'school' break or anything, and then share your stories with them. To me, you won't look desperate if you do it in a righteous way. What goes around, comes around. If you're there for your friends, they'll be there for you too but sometimes, you need to be your own friend i.e being independent. Don't worry, you will find more friends if you look in the right place. All the best :)
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