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i need cute things to say to my gf
I always had the perfect words to say to my gf but after almost a year now I ran out of cute things to say, I always quoted movies and songs but now she's with me most of the time so it kinda makes things hard for me to quote something she hasn't heard yet... Please help!!! :(
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Yeah, this is a really common guy conundrum. There are online quote dictionaries, but what you have to remind yourself about that the thing she most wants from you is to feel close to you by you understanding her. This is easy to do.
1. Try to listen more to her underlying motivation for saying what she is and then repeat it back to her in your own words. "What I'm hearing from is is...."
2. Don't ever call her names since this undermines how secure she feels in the relationship.
3. Women are security focused. So hone in on doing things that strengthen that feeling. Don't kiss up to her because women hate that since it shows a lack of confidence. Just say things like, "hey, I heard a lot about this restaurant, let's go check it out!" That way, you're not asking her, you're taking a leadership position and you indicated that her company is important to you without kissing her butt.
4. Let her know that her opinion is important to you and that reasonable people can disagree when you don't feel the same way about something she does. That shows her she can be her in the relationship and that you aren't looking for her to be someone else or something else. "My view of this movie is ...., what do you think?" 'Yeah, I hear where you're coming from. What you're saying is that...." Do you see what I'm saying?
You can repeat yourself very occasionally with those lines, too. But don't do it to the point it becomes fingernails on a chalkboard. Read lots of books since it differentiates you from the legions of guys who just camp in front of the tv night after night, it helps your thinking become more nuanced and she'll just think you're overall a smarter person than you may, in fact be.
So diversify your portfolio of things to like about you rather than just trying to be Henny Youngman or Groucho Marx. Somebody who is "on" all the time can be really annoying plus it is imbued with a lot of pressure on the person trying to be so. Learn an instrument and then play songs for her. Guitars get chicks, dude, but only if you get good at it. And you don't want to whip it out on her until you're good at it.
Finally, what do you get out of all this? Are you getting what you want out of the relationship? Or do you find yourself working way too hard for the return you're getting or are you getting off on it? If the cost-benefit side of the relationship comes out with more costs then benefit then you need to go elsewhere.
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