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Restraining order
2 months ago me and my bf of 1 year broke up. He still loves me and i hung out with another guy and did stuff he found out and hes really upset and i understand why :(. He is crazy in love with me and hes not abusive or anything towards me. My mom wants to get a restraining order on him and i don't want that, i really don't :(. I'm 18 years old is there anyway i can stop my mom from doing that? Please help i am going insane about this all!
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You gotta cut the guy off. A restraining order is a bridge too far if there is no stalker-type behavior going on, but there is probably something in you that likes the fact that this guy still wants you even after the relationship ended. That's pretty cruel to be frank and if I were your current boyfriend I would be concerned about your inability to make a clean break with your ex. You look a bit manipulative, actually. So start cutting the guy off and, after a while, he'll move his attentions to another girl and your current boyfriend will feel more secure about being with you.
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If he's always following you and showing up unwanted and causing problems when you're with other men or people your mom needs to put a stop to it.
There's a bloody big difference between love for someone and full out obsessive behavior where he won't let you be around other people, live or asks upset or causes problems with current boyfriends. He's a loose cannon and even if you think he's non-violent or not threatening he may be as what he's doing is delusional and nutty when he's been told to leave you be by your parents.
I don't know the ins and outs of restraining orders nor would I pretend to. I do know stalking, threats, showing up and harassing you and others are something the police will listen to and handle appropriately. At the very least he can be cited for harassment for never leaving you alone.
I know you don't want your mom to approach the police but sometimes a parent's instinct and knowledge this can escalate has to trump any feelings you had about the person as right now they're doing something obsessive and unhealthy affecting you and won't stop. Shit, it's affecting guys around you. Who knows what this person will do for attention. He sounds unstable.
If your parents haven't appealed to his for him to leave you alone one last time do that first and have your mom warn them that the police will be involved if he doesn't stop. Sometimes threatening that to his parents will get him to think twice about you.
You may be 18 but you should not stop, hinder or give false information to "save" this person when mom approaches the cops. You can't stop her from filing one but you do need to WAKE UP and SEE you have a BIG problem with this guy and he's obsessed which is an unstable and volatile deal.
If she told him "It's over, don't go near my daughter" or you told him that and he
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