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what should i do? I am a 29 year old mother of 2 and have been with my fiance for 3 years now.
I am a 29 year old mother of 2 and have been with my fiance for 3 years now. We had been seeing each other secretly for 3 months when he hooked up with another woman to. They saw each other for 3 months before I found out. They ended and I decided to continue with him. When it finally came out we were dating his ex girl friend stopped by his house and said she had slept with him a month before and had been at his house the day before this and the previous day I started to leave but he talked me out of . after I moved in he started talking to the girl he had the 3 month fling with again. I moved out a month later but went back. he will not tell me his feelings but will txt em and has admitted to putting video cameras outside the house to watch what I do while he's at work he is addicted to the tv, never asks about my past, changes his routines and never takes responsibility for nething. if I have a problem with him he instantly has a problem with me. his parenting style is lax while mine is much more strick. I don't feel comfortable telling his daughter what to do and he rarely tells her nething But is quick to tell mine. we hardly communicate and I Just am not happy nemore. he asked me to marry him during an arguement then said I ruined the surprise because I didn't trust him when all I did was ask a question. someone please help me. I love him but I'm tired of living like this.
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Here is what is happening:
You feel extremely insecure about yourself to the point where you are being cheated on and won't leave a guy who is basically saying you aren't woman enough for him.
So your choice is to either stand up for yourself as a fully realized adult and completely end it or to endure ongoing misery. When you don't have trust in a relationship you have no basis by which to continue it. What you have right now is basically a pantomime relationship. Ball's in your court.
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This is a bad situation that you have realized you must get out of. It's not a loving one and he seems a serial cheat. The fact he's installed cameras to watch your every move does not show he has trust or love towards you.
He's not helping with the parenting, can't converse with you anything meaningful outside of text messages. He's also combative when you try to talk to him about certain issues. Sometimes when you love someone and the situation is shitty you have to push that aside and leave for your own sake and or your child's. That's my recommendation leave now before it intensifies in magnitude. He's not going to change.
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