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My bf and I want to have sex, but complications are there!
I am 21and female. I am still a virgin and I really really want to have sex. But I have heard stories about having to a bone to actually have sex. I think it is called a hemen. Is this true. Does sex hurt for the first time? We have already decided on going through without protection, he is my fiancé and we want a child for our wedding present. We are planning to do it on the night of our honeymoon. We have done this before but no actually gone through with it like we are that night. He got his head in before we were interrupted by the police, apparently we're not supposed to have sex on a park bench.
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Something obviously got messed up in translation. There are lots of good sites to read about having sexual intercourse online, so you might want to avail yourself of them.
The main thing you need is a moist vagina and an erect (often referred to by the slang term, "boner") penis and you're good to go.
It will hurt the first time even if the hymen has been broken because your vagina isn't used to having anything in it. To lessen the pain somewhat, you'll need to just relax. Let your body go limp when he is about to penetrate you and just kind of clear your mind (you should try this trick on roller coasters, too; you won't feel those g forces nearly as much!). He'll also need to be relaxed with a blank mind while he's thrusting so that he doesn't go off too soon. The longer you go into the sex session, the more pleasurable it will become.
The first 2-3 times you have sex it will hurt somewhat, but as you get into having sex regularly, that pain will become non-existent. Just remember that with this step in your lives it will take time for you two to really learn the other's sexual responses and having good sex is a learned skill. Be willing to tell him what you liked and what you didn't and to be willing to look up good information online together and carry an open mind in exploring your sexuality. And don't worry so much about what works for other people, only what works for you.
Have fun and good luck!
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Lol, break a bone. That's a new one. But no. You don't have to break a bone. The hymen is just a part of your vagina, a piece of skin tissue really. When the penis penetrates your vagina, it will tear the hymen, and it may hurt. How much? I can't tell you. Many women experience "popping the cherry" pain differently. Some say it's excruciating, while other's say they barely noticed it at all. As for intercourse, intercourse in any public setting is not allowed, if I recall properly, it is illegal. You could even go to jail for that, yes some people do it, but they tend to go where they are sure they won't get caught. How much longer is your honeymoon? Why not wait until then? Make it more special, wouldn't it?
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