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Breaking up: I can't get the words out. I need help, and I don't know what to do.
I've been planning to break up with my boyfriends for months now and I feel so awful that I haven't done it yet, but I am severely shy, even after having dated him for a year. I just feel that there's nothing in this relationship beneficial to us. I feel awkward as well that he keeps buying me things and it makes me feel even worse about having to break up with him, but I really am not happy with this relationship. I wouldn't mind being friends with him still, but in a relationship? It's not working. I don't want to break up with him over Facebook because I know people hate that, but whenever we get together in person, I can't. I choke on my words and can't even force myself to speak half the time. I really need help. I don't know what to do now.
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Facebook is the wrong place to ask someone out and or breakup. I have a horror story to back that up so I'm warning don't do it that way. It can easily be copied and shown to someone else same deal with a text.
Even though you are shy you have to talk to him face to face and realize that it's the most compassionate way. It's easier not to choke up if you have what you want to say written down and put a great deal of thought into it. Read from paper.
There is NOTHING to be embarrassed over AT ALL. Your relationship like so many other people's just didn't work out. You tried.
I would write a short note that says "It's hard for me to say this but I need to. I feel we work best as friends and not as lovers and do not want to drag this out any further. It's just not working but I will always have a place as a friend for you in my heart." Leave it at that. Short and sweet. Practice saying it as that may help.
If you absolutely can't say it to him slip a card into his locker about it and explain why you had a hard time trying to do it in person and to come see you later to talk. He's not apt to pass that card around.
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