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My past still haunts me
I am 25. I was sexually abused when I was a kid by 2 men. My stepfather have had bad intentions towards me when we were still living in his house. He was touching my boobs. The ones whom I thought who will take care of me, they were the one who did unacceptable things to me. When I was still pregnant, I told my mum and my sister that no guys are allowed to stay in our house for a long time. Maybe they can sleep overnight but stay so long, I'm not comfortable with that. I gave birth to a healthy baby girl. She's now 8 months. I am very protective of her.
The mother of my sister's bf has a cancer. He's the one who is taking care of her.They are living 2-3 hours away from our house. He doesn't have good connection with his aunts and grandfather and he's saying that they don't treat him good. My sister knows that too because she visits him sometimes. The guy comes in our house too sometimes, he sleeps here for few nights and I don't have problem with that. He's a good guy. Until my sister asked my mother if her boyfriend can live in our house while looking for a job until he finds a stable job. His family is pushing him to have a job already and he wants here in our place to look for a job maybe so that he can be near my sister. I don't like it that he's gonna live here in our house. I'm not comfortable that there is a guy in our house and I have a daughter. I am always afraid that she can experience too what I experienced when I was a kid. I just don't like it. Well, he can sleep for few nights but the idea of him living here at home makes me mad. My mum wants to accept him at home as a help since his mother has a cancer. I had an argument too with my sister because of it. Am I being too selfish and only thinking of myself? Please help.
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No . you are not selfish at all and you sound like you are a good mother from what I have read . you have every right to protect your daughter and that is what you are doing protecting your daughter from having to go through what you have gone through and you have that right as a mom . why don't you try tell your mom and your sister how you feel about your sister's boyfriend moving in and explain why ?
Hope that I have helped
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No you are not being too selfish. You have gone through a lot of things in your life,you are a parent now and to. Want to protect your daughter from what happened to you is a good thing.. I understand that and you all need to sit down and talk about it. They have to understand your point of view. And you also have to realize that not every man is like the people who hurt you.
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