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I yell at my grandmother
well i have anger problems and my grandmother just gets on my nerves all the time and i yell at her. when my mom tells me to do something, and im doing it then here shes, do what your mom fucking told u to do your so lazy!. so i go and get an attitude and yell at her. what should i do though?
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I'm not sure what you are trying to say here. If you are doing what has been asked of you. Why would your grandmother call you lazy and yell at you to do what has been asked of you?
You have not given your age so I will assume you are a fairly young teenager. Part of the problem her is puberty and all the changes that happen at this age. The short temper and and attitudes you get are all apart of it. The fact that you are aware of it is good. This is something you will or should grow out of. You need to stay aware of this problem and if it still controls you when you are older you then may need to seek professional help.
For now though all the new hormones your body is trying to adjust to plays a major part in what is happening. When you feel yourself starting to loose control, to cop and attitude and yell at anyone including your grandma; What you need to do is step away from the situation and cool off. Even if that means listening to grandma scream at you when you leave the room or go outside to calm down and cool off.
Of course when you do this your mom is probably going to want to know why you ran off from your grandmother. Depending on how mom approaches you on this you need to stay calm and explain. You say; " mom I have been seeing myself getting an attitude and yelling at grandma a lot." "I don't like this and I don't like me when I do this." You can go on to explain to her that you asked for advice on this website and someone who is old enough to be your grandfather suggested that when you feel yourself loosing control that you simply leave the room or go outside and calm down rather than yell at grandma.
I believe mom will understand. I believe we have all gone through this period in our teenage lives. I know I have and I wish someone would have suggested to me what I am suggesting to you. It would have made my life easier.
Should what I am suggesting help then professional help for anger management should not be necessary.
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