Love? Sometimes I feel i am only with Him for loneliness.
Question Posted Thursday November 15 2012, 1:45 pm
F17
Hey guys Im dating a guy and he is extremely nice to me. I love him but, I sometimes feel hes way to efectionit! I dont get it I love the way he is but I can't figure out all these stupid emotions.. I know your probably saying yea he's a nice guy don't break his heart but I feel a lot of pressure beacause he mentioned the other day he wouldnt be able to move on if I were to break up with him when I never told him I was. That gets me thinking. sometimes I feel i am only with Him for loneliness. Hes like my guy friend but hes also more then that is that how I'm sopose to feelI don't know I just get lots of thoughts in my head :/ help!
I understand exactly how you feel. This is how I felt when I first started going out with my boyfriend. Sometimes I loved being around him, he was so sweet nice and kind. But other times I Felt completely disinterested. Like he was into the relationship more than me. I felt like his affectionate ways bugged me. Other times I loved it.
I actually wrote on here asking for advice.
Some of the advice I got from people here, and from my friends, told me it wasn't fair to be with him if I wasn't as committed as him.
But who is 100% devoted to someone at 17?
you're still young. You're still figuring out all of your emotions. Having the responsibility of a relationship is a huge deal. Having to think of someone besides yourself is a huge deal too.
Some like the idea of a relationship more so then the actual person. In some cases this may be true. In which case the right thing to do is to walk away.
However I am a firm believer that relationships take time to grow. One person may develop feelings of love quicker than the other.And that's only natural. Give it time. See how your feelings grow.
I gave my emotions and my boyfriend a chance. and I'm so glad I did because three years later we are still together. You never know. Give it time and see how you feel. You'll no in your heart if it's right or not. There is no point being with him for the sake of it. If you can see it possibly working out in the future, then give it a fair go. If not it's best to end it now
Much <3
Jess 19/f [ JustJessOx's advice column | Ask JustJessOx A Question ]
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