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If my dad is having an affair... should I tell my mom? Advice please!!
I have recently been told by my 13 yr old sister that my dad is having an affair, she knew this because she read a conversation on skype with a woman and I read that conversation myself yesterday and from what I read he is having an affair but I don't know whether i should tell my step-mum as i fear she wont believe me and I feel I may create more problems. I am constantly thinking about it as I am always around my step-mum or my dad and I don't know what to do. My friends think I should tell my dad I know and tell him to stop or ill tell her but i dont think that is right, I need some serious advice, please help!
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The short answer to your question is no.
It is not the children's place to involve themselves in their parents marriage in this manner. If dad is having an affair, which you believe or have proof he is, there is nothing you can do about it but cause more harm than good.
Telling your father you know can harm your relationship with your father. Since you have not said what your age is or what has happened to or where your biological mom is. Harming your relationship with your father is detrimental to you leaving you with no safe haven. The same goes for informing your step-mom.
It is possible you step-mom is aware of your fathers affair and chosen to accept or ignore his indiscretions as long as he comes home to her each night. This is something you may not be aware of and letting her or both of them know you are aware will upset the delicate balance at work here. This is a possibility that happens in the real world just as in the Hollywood movies.
If you truly feel you can't live with the situation then I suggest you speak with his sister, brother or your fathers parents if they are still alive and let one of them talk to him. Something like this is easier dealt with between two adults thena child, any age, to parent.
I can understand how you feel and I'm sorry you have placed yourself in the middle of this. The best thing to do in your best interest is to try to ignore this or let another close relative speak to your father.
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