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Is it weird that I'm usually only attracted to guys outside my ethnicity?
I'm black, and for some reason most of the guys I crush on end up being white. I've grown up in diverse areas, but with mainly white people and asians. My family is African, and most of the other black people I've known growing up have been either extended family or family friends, so none of the guys would be seen as potential romantic interests. I did like one guy in elementary school, but he ended up switching schools. And someone like Jimi Hendrix attracts me too, cause I'm into "underground" music and he just seemed to be with that whole mentality, too. I've been attracted to a few black guys I've seen at concerts, too, but unfortunately I only see those kinds of guys at concerts, and then I'd be too afraid to approach them unless we were like around each other, lol. In all honesty, I haven't felt very warm interactions with many other black people, I guess for not being "stereotypical" (apart from the African ones in my extended family, but even they sometimes think I'm weird), and I've had a few "African American" female friends who at one point kind of stopped interacting with me and I don't know why. I'm nice to everyone, and you can't expect everyone to act the same and have the same interests just cause of ethnicity/race. It makes no sense to me. But that kind of "shunning" did hurt, I guess. So, that paired with my school being mainly white and asian, most of my friends growing up (apart from familial ties, again) have been white and asian. I don't get why so many people still believe stereotypes, so I don't like a guy who feels they have to act like one and not like themselves and is hung up about all of that nonsense. I kind of have a high sexuality and I've watched porn, and most of the time it's ebony with a white guy. Like ever since around 7th grade most of my romantic interests have been white, mainly cause of where I lived. I tend to have more in common with them than other people, I've noticed. I've liked Asian, South American, etc. guys too, so you could also throw them into the mix. But sometimes I feel like there's something bad about what I feel? I don't know why. But like a porn with two people of the same race just seems boring and kind of gross. Like if I see porn with two black people it feels like it could be a family member or something and that turns me off. Is that weird? I feel weird for even watching porn at all. But I'm 18 and I'm trying to find the right guy, instead of just getting with anyone I don't love, so that's how I tend to release my pent up sexual energy. Like I'm into hardcore stuff and some bdsm (spanking, domination, that sort of thing). I want to be totally submissive, but I'm afraid of loving someone else 100% and getting hurt, cause it's easy for me to like others. And no, I'm not self hating or anything. I see all ethnicities as attractive, depending on the person, and find myself attractive, so idk. And I've talked about race a lot here, just for the purpose of this question, but I really just see everyone as humans (cause I know race is just a social concept), and accept people for the individuals they are. I guess it's just me for being weird and having weird interests. Music is one of the big things that attracts me to someone and where I live indie music isn't very much a big thing, and who tends to like indie music the most? Exactly. It's not even just music to me, it's probably the closest thing to my heart, so when someone else likes the same thing it's like, someone actually understands me and what I feel and don't know how to express.
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It is actually biologically very normal to be attracted to people outside your ethnicity. The biological reason is: it will increase the randomization of the gene pool and likeliness to produce healthy offspring. When there are differences in genes it is more likely to cause randomization and decrease chances of birth defects. so it is normal.
Hey, opposites attract;)
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