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25/F is it a coincidence or something more?
So I reached out to my ex,we've been broken up since july 2011-she dumped me,just to say what's up and surprisingly we have been talking/texting everyday now going on 2 weeks. But it seems like everytime I tell her something sweet I.e. I still love you,I remembered it because its about you,or that's something about you that I fell for, etc..there is a noticeable halt in her response. Like I won't hear from her for hours and when she does respond its something completely different than where we left off. Is it a coincidence she gets busy/distracted when I happen to say these things or am I making her uncomfortable or is there some underlying thought that she may have the same feelings and just doesn't know how to respond??
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Honestly, it depends on how the broke up happened. Because you can think that something happened, and she'll come up with WAY more than what you thought had happened. If she's being awkward then she doesn't want to talk about it. Don't make her. I do believe she may have SOME time of feeling towards you. Obviously it's good since you guys are hanging out? But really I couldn't say because I'd need to know about your past relationship, and how it ended. You can't chase someone that doesn't want to be chased. Please let me know some more and maybe I can come up with an answer for you!
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It's not just a coincidence. It's far more likely she is trying to 'not be mean' by telling you she simply isn't interested.
You've given her an opening and been clear about your feelings. If she felt the same, she could feel pretty confident speaking up.
She doesn't feel the same. I can't read anyone's mind, but I can pretty much guarantee this.
If you want to be her friend, say so.
You might also want to straight up ask her if A.) She wants to get back together with you or B.) she wants to be your friend.
The answer to A.) is almost definitely no and if you keep pushing her with your feelings for her, the answer to B.) might become no too.
Decide what it is you want from your relationship with her, then ask for it. Let her say yes or no clearly.
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It's not a coincidence - she's not acknowledging your feelings - which means she's uncomfortable talking about it with you. She may miss your company / friendship aspect of your relationship but does not want to be romantically involved. In either case she is being selfish and only thinking of herself. If she isn't acknowledging what you have said - she has no self-awareness - she SHOULD be saying "I'm sorry - maybe it's too soon for us to talk - I didn't want to mislead you". I'm a 43 year old married female - happened to stumble across this website.
The best way to communicate is by speaking to one another NOT TEXTING. Too much gets lost in translation. If you had been speaking more than texting than you can address the issue.
You have nothing to lose by being true to yourself.
Be bold, courageous & fearless...allow yourself to step into the unknown - just address the issue......she is the only one that can answer your question.
Good Luck !!! xoxo
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Ok, we'll in my opinion, I think that she can either be having the same feelings as you do and just doesn't want to tell you. She could also just feel always about but still wants to talk to you so she doesn't answer until later and changes the whole subject. I would just back off with the little things you say and see if she starts texting you more often, then you'll finally know the reason why.
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