Member Since: November 9, 2012
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First off, I know that nobody here is a doctor. I'm asking this question solely for an opinion of someone who may have had or know someone that had what I do right now and to have an idea of what's wrong before I can get to an actual doctor.
I'd also like to say I don't have asthma and I've never really had allergies and I've lived in a home with a smoker for 18 years but I spend most of my time in my room that is smoke free aside from candle burning.
I noticed around last week while our power was out because of Hurricane Sandy that every once in awhile, my throat would sort of close up or get blocked and I'd have some trouble breathing properly. It would sound kinda like I was wheezing when I exhaled. It would last from around 5 to 10 minutes and usually stop when I took my mind off it.
Fast forward a couple days, my power is back and I've been getting a stuffy nose, sometimes it runs and I'm taking basic cold medicine to help it but I haven't had any issues with breathing.
Fast forward a couple more days and the breathing issue is back, I've been waking up around 6-7am every day because I can't breathe in my sleep, it feels like there's a ton of phloem in my throat that builds up while I'm sleeping only too eventually clog my air way. I can't really cough is up. I'm woken up at 6am after taking Niquil and falling asleep at any time. I'm just so frustrated and I have no idea when I can get to a doctor so hopefully someone can understand why I'd look for some possible answers until then.
Thank you for reading.
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sounds like you've developed asthma (my husband has developed it). I just took my husband to the doctor and they said they were looking for wheezing on the exhale.......asthma. If your parent has been smoking your entire life - you could be suffering from second hand smoke issues.
I don't want to alarm you - but 2nd hand smoke is extremely dangerous. The smoke sticks to the walls and furniture, etc......you probably have become used to the "smell". But that smoke is still in the air.
Also - there is bacteria in the air from the storm and you may have an infection.
Get to a doctor and get antibiotics.
Better to be safe than sorry. Get better sweetie - and when you find out what it is - please let me know :) I'm a mom and would love to know that you are okay :)
Katie
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I've been seeing a new guy for about 3 weeks and we recently decided to make the relationship exclusive. I usually don't move that fast, but I feel a strong connection to him and we seem to be very compatible.
Here's the thing: I cheated in my last relationship. We were apart for the last year of an almost 7 year relationship, and it was during that time that I cheated. I was a mess at the time, had serious commitment issues, had some major life changes coming up that I didn't know how to deal with, was afraid that I wouldn't be able to face these new challenges, and lost myself and my morals completely. None of these justifies what I did, but that was my state of mind. I screwed up, big time. The past year I've stayed single and have been working on myself - gone to counseling, focused on getting the other areas of my life in order. I'm in a better place now; I have tremendous guilt and remorse for what I did and I could never hurt someone so deeply ever again. "Once a cheater, always a cheater" does not apply here - through the past year I have fundamentally changed my behaviors and attitudes; I have taken my experience and learned from it.
I think I need to tell my new boyfriend that I've cheated in the past, and explain what I've explained above in a little more detail. I want this relationship to be grounded in honesty and trust right from the beginning. But when should I tell him? If I do it now, is it too much, too soon? If I do it later, will he be hurt that I didn't tell him sooner? If you disagree with me and think I shouldn't tell him, why do you think so?
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Hi there - your question is very deep. I don't view you as a "cheater".
Ask yourself the following question: If you were in your boyfriend's shoes would you want to know?
For me personally, what happened in a previous relationship was a symptom of a bigger problem. Forgive the analogy - a sore throat due to laryngitis.
Now, if you were married and cheated then I would say you definitely need to tell your new boyfriend. But you were in a 7 year relationship - apart for the last year of it - (sounds like you were either separated or on a break) and to me it doesn't sound like you cheated. Only you know if you cheated (in your heart). Also - I don't want to assume your gender or sexual preference. I don't judge.
If you had a PATTERN of cheating in ALL of your past relationships, then that also would justify telling him.
It sounds like you have "rehabilitated" and that's important - counseling is great - you get perspective. What has your therapist advised you? Maybe see them since they know you (have a history of talking to you professionally).
You said it yourself: "I have tremendous guilt and remorse for what I did and I could never hurt someone so deeply ever again."
You haven't done anything to the new boyfriend.
Has your ex forgiven you? Have you asked him for forgiveness? Is there a possibility that by sharing this information with the new boyfriend you think that it may release you from feeling the guilt of the past?? The only person that can release you from that feeling of guilt is the ex and then you need to forgive yourself.
To err is human.
Everyone makes mistakes - it's not repeating them that is more important.
Good luck !! :)
p.s. hope I helped a little !!!
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So I met this guy when I was out one night about a month and a half ago. I was pretty drunk, but we got on really, really well and I remember thinking he was really good looking and sweet, which is quite a big deal, because i'm pretty picky. Before he had to go he gave me his number, and told me to text him, and kissed me. A couple of days after I decided to text him, and got no reply. I was a bit disappointed, but pretty much forgot about it after a couple of weeks, what with my busy school schedule. Then out of the blue I got a reply from him, about three weeks after I had initially text him, and he apologized and said that his phone had been broken and he'd only just got it fixed, which I guess could have made sense as he didn't have a phone on him the night I met him and had given me his number off by heart. So we were texting and he was being really nice saying that he wanted another kiss, and i was really cute etc, we texted for about 24hours but after that the conversation dried up a little bit and so i didn't send another reply. He was kind of and my mind quite a bit after we'd been texting, and so I left it about a week and then text him again, as I don't like to appear desperate, i presumed he would reply considering all the cute stuff he'd been saying in our previous conversation, but i didn't get a reply. I don't really know what to do, because he's playing on my mind quite a lot, but I hate looking needy and desperate, so should I just give up, and eventually forget or pursure it? (link)
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I'm a 43 year old married female.
Personally, I don't like texting as a method of communication - you can't HEAR the person's voice - you can't HEAR their laugh - you can't HEAR the way they sound when talking about things in life. That is how you get to know someone. You communicate by TALKING not TEXTING.
My son (who is in college) is in a relationship. I taught him very early that the most important thing in a relationship is communication. I explained to him how written words (texting or email) can be misinterpreted - that a person puts their own voice to the words.
A person can "say" whatever they want to say hiding behind a text or email. I have to wonder how much of what anyone texts/emails would actually be SAID if face to face or over the phone.
I don't know how old you are - but I wouldn't text anyone if I am trying to get to know them. If they want to get to know you - they would want to TALK to you - HEAR your VOICE - make you LAUGH and HEAR your LAUGH. :)
I probably sound old-fashioned but trust me, sometimes texting can be more of a problem than a way of communicating.
If you want to pursue it - then CALL him and say that you want to get to know him by talking not texting.
Good luck !!!
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So I reached out to my ex,we've been broken up since july 2011-she dumped me,just to say what's up and surprisingly we have been talking/texting everyday now going on 2 weeks. But it seems like everytime I tell her something sweet I.e. I still love you,I remembered it because its about you,or that's something about you that I fell for, etc..there is a noticeable halt in her response. Like I won't hear from her for hours and when she does respond its something completely different than where we left off. Is it a coincidence she gets busy/distracted when I happen to say these things or am I making her uncomfortable or is there some underlying thought that she may have the same feelings and just doesn't know how to respond?? (link)
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It's not a coincidence - she's not acknowledging your feelings - which means she's uncomfortable talking about it with you. She may miss your company / friendship aspect of your relationship but does not want to be romantically involved. In either case she is being selfish and only thinking of herself. If she isn't acknowledging what you have said - she has no self-awareness - she SHOULD be saying "I'm sorry - maybe it's too soon for us to talk - I didn't want to mislead you". I'm a 43 year old married female - happened to stumble across this website.
The best way to communicate is by speaking to one another NOT TEXTING. Too much gets lost in translation. If you had been speaking more than texting than you can address the issue.
You have nothing to lose by being true to yourself.
Be bold, courageous & fearless...allow yourself to step into the unknown - just address the issue......she is the only one that can answer your question.
Good Luck !!! xoxo
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