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Give up and move on or pursue him?
So I met this guy when I was out one night about a month and a half ago. I was pretty drunk, but we got on really, really well and I remember thinking he was really good looking and sweet, which is quite a big deal, because i'm pretty picky. Before he had to go he gave me his number, and told me to text him, and kissed me. A couple of days after I decided to text him, and got no reply. I was a bit disappointed, but pretty much forgot about it after a couple of weeks, what with my busy school schedule. Then out of the blue I got a reply from him, about three weeks after I had initially text him, and he apologized and said that his phone had been broken and he'd only just got it fixed, which I guess could have made sense as he didn't have a phone on him the night I met him and had given me his number off by heart. So we were texting and he was being really nice saying that he wanted another kiss, and i was really cute etc, we texted for about 24hours but after that the conversation dried up a little bit and so i didn't send another reply. He was kind of and my mind quite a bit after we'd been texting, and so I left it about a week and then text him again, as I don't like to appear desperate, i presumed he would reply considering all the cute stuff he'd been saying in our previous conversation, but i didn't get a reply. I don't really know what to do, because he's playing on my mind quite a lot, but I hate looking needy and desperate, so should I just give up, and eventually forget or pursure it?
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I'm a 43 year old married female.
Personally, I don't like texting as a method of communication - you can't HEAR the person's voice - you can't HEAR their laugh - you can't HEAR the way they sound when talking about things in life. That is how you get to know someone. You communicate by TALKING not TEXTING.
My son (who is in college) is in a relationship. I taught him very early that the most important thing in a relationship is communication. I explained to him how written words (texting or email) can be misinterpreted - that a person puts their own voice to the words.
A person can "say" whatever they want to say hiding behind a text or email. I have to wonder how much of what anyone texts/emails would actually be SAID if face to face or over the phone.
I don't know how old you are - but I wouldn't text anyone if I am trying to get to know them. If they want to get to know you - they would want to TALK to you - HEAR your VOICE - make you LAUGH and HEAR your LAUGH. :)
I probably sound old-fashioned but trust me, sometimes texting can be more of a problem than a way of communicating.
If you want to pursue it - then CALL him and say that you want to get to know him by talking not texting.
Good luck !!!
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