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My boyfriend finishes too fast.
Whenever my boyfriend and I "Get to it" I always have fun but it's usually short lived, he lasts about 5-7 minutes tops and I'm always left hanging, he tries after with foreplay but it doesn't work because he gets completely uninterested and tired and I want him to be excited. Is there anyway I can get him to last longer? Positions or tips? I got him a ring and it helps a little he lasts about 1-2 minutes longer but nothing substantial. Does anyone know anything that will help?? Please??
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Maybe give some free advice about: Trouble Reaching Orgasm?
Getting a guy to pleasure you after climax is incredibly difficult. He will feel tired after sex and a blokes sex drive plummets to zero immediately after he comes. Before he has his climax is a different matter, and I'd say this is the point that you should be using all his ardour and desire to make YOU come. Maybe try showing him just how much you're enjoying the extended foreplay, vocally and with some sensual moves? Most guys REALLY enjoy knowing they're pleasuring their partner, so lots of encouragement! Personally I'm not sure trying to extend the actual act of sex to unusually long periods by chemical or mechanical means is very successful. It can end up with a tired and bored bloke and a rather sore lady if you overdo it. Not that sexy or satisfying. But if you're pretty well there already when he starts it could be an exciting and pleasurable seven minute show-stopper!
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I hate to be the bearer of bad news but 5 to 7 minutes is about the average length of time for intercourse before a male climaxes.
If you need more stimulation then as the previous columnist advised there are creams on the market to dull his sensation or heighten yours. You can also try to extend your foreplay or try different foreplay techniques. Do you know if you need more clitoral stimulation to climax. Not all women are vaginal in their stimulation. Many need to have their clitoris stimulated more during foreplay and to use positions that offer more stimulation to the clit for her to climax better.
These are some of the things you can do to give you a better time with him.
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There are multiple ways that can help him last longer. There are lubricants which contain benzocaine or other numbing agents which may help, other ways, you two could do more foreplay BEFORE getting intimate. That may help you at least. It may also even take time before he can last longer as well. Check around google for ways, and items which may help prolong his performance.
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