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Rejecting a jerk I used to love...
Hey everyone :)
Please excuse the length, but please read.
This recently happened to me:
What if you had a lifetime crush on a guy from when you were too young to even sneeze, then when you were 4 you had to move away? Then 5 more years later, you see him again because he might be moving two hours away from you in the state you live in? He kisses you (I was 9 then, he was 11) and then you forget about him after a while because he ends up not moving and you have more crushes. Then in exactly 5 MORE years, you see him again on Christmas, and you realize you're STILL not over him. Then a month later, just when you're about to tell him how you feel, you find out he gets a brand new girlfriend he's extremely happy with. Then you try to get over him again. (it doesn't work at ALL) Then when you stop worrying about the fact that he has a girlfriend now and start thinking about how you would regret it if you don't say anything now, you go over to his house. That same night, you find out that he is CHEATING on his girlfriend of 4 months. The whole time you're over at his house, he's touching your leg, face, hair, flirting with you, and on top of that CALLS the girl he's cheating on his girlfriend with in your face and flirts with HER over the phone, lies to her and his girlfriend, then had the nerve to deny that he's doing any of that? How would you feel?
The same night as you say goodbye, he hugs you and tells you that he loves you after you scream at him for being stupid. You walk away, angry.
The next time you see him - acts as if nothing has happened. That night, he argues with his girlfriend over the phone, and you notice his anger because you're outside on the phone with someone too.
Then his best friend ("practically his brother") calls him. He tells him that his girlfriend just called him saying that she had feelings for him and that she wanted to come over and "talk" because she felt vulnerable after the breakup she just had. You already know what was really on her mind was sex.
Then what if your crush says to you that he is extremely mad at this girl and that he will never forgive her for what she was about to do? Then you tell him that he would have done the same thing. He just laughs. What would you do girls? What would you say? How would you react? I think I didn't get my point across by the way I reacted towards him...
I'm sorry if this is too run-on for you, but I just need to vent right now... I want to know what you would have done and how you would react. How would you reject him?
Thanks to everyone in advance!
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Although great, well thought out, disses and glorious rejections are fun to watch in movies, they don't actually work in reality.
You've already found out one of the reasons:
Most people don't really hear what you are saying to them. They are too wrapped up in their own shit to hear, or respect, what you are trying to tell them.
So, although I understand you impulse, you need to understand that the ''ultimate rejection" you are after might just be an unattainable fantasy.
You want to send a clear message: walk away, stop being his friend. If he asks you why, tell him straight up the way he treats women sucks, and you don't want that in your life, even as a friend. Keep it simple and honest.
Resist the desire to convince him, or fix him. If he isn't ready to hear what you are saying, it won't matter what you say, and rejection is about what you do, not what you say.
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