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Should I leave my boyfriend?
I'm Camilla I'm 21 my boyfriend 21 as well. We been together for a year and 9 months. It's been the same issue he would talk to another girl. Lie say he not in a relationship we would breakup. Get back together talk it out then have good days. Then the issue would just repeat. I don't know what to do anymore. Please help me?
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They will kick me out of the boys club for this but you asked.
It sounds to me like your boyfriend is keeping his options open. In other words he has not yet made up his mind that you are the girl he wants to make a life with, for whatever his reasons may be. In other words if he hasn't cheated on you yet he will in the future if he finds someone he wants to get to know better.
To me this say he is a very immature 21 year old. At his age he should know if he is ready to settle down and he should know after 21 months with the same women if you and he are compatible in all the ways. Instead he is still looking still wondering what he may be missing. He is not ready for a life relationship.
In other words he is not husband material. If you two were to somehow make it down the isle together he would most likely continue to look. Nothing wrong with looking. As my wife has told me looking is fine reordering or sampling from the menu could be cause for certain body parts to be come separated from me. (lol)
My advice is that you two could talk about this and he may for a while toe the line. I believe he will continue to wonder and wander until he is ready or feels he has not missed anything. You have been down the talking road, broken up and gotten back together. I believe you deserve better.
You deserve someone who will honor his commitment to you even if it is just a loving relationship for a start. If you don't mind my additional advice; you need to find someone with whom you can have more than a physical relationship. Someone who shares your interests and life goals.
As I tell some others who ask a different type of question: There is more to life than sex. One day you are going to wake up and need to talk to each other. This is when you know if you have a real relationship. When you can talk to each other on subjects other than sex and food.
My advice is give this guy his walking papers. As my mother always said their are more fish in the sea. So bait your hook and go fishing again. Just remember to throw back the ones that don't meet your standards.
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Have you talked to him about this? I mean have had a serious conversation and told him how you feel? I would say if he keeps repeating himself than you should break up with him. He's doing things to make you unhappy. When you're with someone you are with only that person no one else. You should be loud and proud about the person your with. To go off and talk to someone else is shady and dishonest. How can you trust someone that is going to be dishonest to you? Good luck!
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