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I need advice i want to have sex with him,but am scared!
How to turn on my boyfriend ?
and i want to have sex with him,but am scared!! any advice?
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Being scared is your internal warning system telling you that you are not ready yet. Listen to it when it goes off as it is designed to keep you safe, not just from having sex if you are not ready but from a host of other things that may not be safe or the right thing to do. Your internal warning system is almost never wrong.
Contrary to what many teenagers believe sex is an adult activity between two CONSENTING adults. Teenage relationships are short term relationships that generally do not last past high school. In fact most of your friendships will not last past high school as once you graduate you will all go off in different directions.
About 80% of you will go on to college with 85% of that figure going to a 4 year college and the rest going to a 2 year college. Of the remaining 20% about 8 to 10% will go into the military another 7% to a trade school and the remaining people will gone on to other activities.
The fact is that you will start to out grow each other as your lives change drastically after college. The one thing that remains a constant is that boys all through puberty will be trying to get girls to have sex with them. Another constant is boys do not know the difference between love and lust and continue to be unable to tell the difference into their early 20's.
Research on the subject of teenage sex show boys need sex more than girls do. Most girls do so to satisfy and keep a boyfriend. This is the wrong reason to have sex. Yes most of us will have had sex before marriage. But we should not have sex in our early or even in our mid to late teens. For one things even though we think our bodies are ready they are not. We are not as we need more maturity to fully comprehend the out come of sexual intercourse.
We get hundreds of letters each month from very young to the the very old teenagers concerning a sexual experience. They all start with, I had sex with my boyfriend and my period is late, could I be pregnant?
Think about this before you have sex. Is fulfilling his need for sex worth the worry of being pregnant. Even when condoms are used they are only 85% effective when worn properly and do not break. Also look at the following website before you have sex. It is titled am I ready for sex.
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If you are SCARED it means you aren't ready for sex yet and that's okay. What you have figured out is that you really want to with the right person who you have established is him. But.. you just don't feel ready for the experience just yet. And, that's okay.
I feel if you attempted it right now it would be an experience you wouldn't be ready for emotionally, physically and over all and may later regret especially if it didn't go smoothly.
What you should do is tell your partner that you have decided that you want him to be the one you experience sex with first but are scared about it and not ready yet. He will respect that. From there you can do more researching and planning and getting ready and safe.
You have to figure out what is scaring you exactly and get more information on sex and sexuality and try to become more comfortable before having a first experience. Waiting is your best option and it will be that much better when you know it's 100% the right time to engage.
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