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No Communication
Hi,
My boyfriend and I are both 18 and have been together for almost 6 years now. He's not really the type to express his feelings and that really bothers me. Lately things have been getting quite bad, where I'll ask him questions that can simply be answered with a yes or no like, 'Do you want me to come over tomorrow?' He won't give me an answer, he will just simply reply with 'What do you want to do?' or, 'I don't know.' It's getting really annoying, it's like I'm talking to a brick wall! I do admit that I get angry with him when he does this, which most of the time starts a fight. I've told him I have a problem with this and that I need him to communicate with me and answer my questions and he agreed to try, but he hasn't and absolutely nothing has changed. It gets me so angry and I don't know how much longer I can take being with a brick wall! What should I do?
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Ask him if there's any kind of attraction anymore between you two. See what kind of reaction it gets you. I honestly think that is a big part in a relationship.
If he loves you he would be trying. From what you've said, I don't think he is.
Ask him what the source is. Have there been any recent big changes in your relationship? Maybe that's your answer there. Maybe you have done something you're very proud of that he doesn't think is that cool, but he doesn't want to hurt your feelings? I don't know...
He could be feeling guilty of something. I would say to ask him, but that seems to be your problem, so I suggest therapy. They will be able to figure it out. Right now, he's a closed oyster. Therapy would be the boiling water to open him up a little. It would also help if you weren't so angry. You should show him that you're there for him no matter what. Be comforting.
I'm sorry if my answer sounds all over the place, but I am just putting all of my ideas together. If you have any further questions, you can email me at melanielovesdylanobrien, which is my personal email.
I hope I helped and good luck :)
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It sounds like your relationship is going downhill, I'm afraid to say. Not all relationships last forever, if it does, you are one of the rare lucky ones. Maybe he doesn't have a feel for the love you two share. Remember there is always the option to find out what is really going on through that mind of his.
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