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I don't like being eaten out. Is that bad?
I don't really like being eaten out...and I feel like I don't like the stuff most girls like during sex. I've never gotten off vaginally (there have been some times where its felt incredible but if its supposed to feel anything like a clit stimulation orgasm then i haven't). My boyfriend is really great in bed but my body is just so stubborn. I get bored of sex after awhile. We switch up positions and stuff but I don't know. I just feel like my body is so different... what should I do? I want to enjoy it more. Sorry about the details.
21/f
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I am in the same situation but I seem to like it when I do stuff to my boyfriend he likes it when I give him head maybe you should try it. It please's them and turn's them on really easy or you should do a tease before but being eaten out is different I have had it done 5 times to me and I didn't like it at first but then my boyfriend done it a different way he layed me down then we kissed then he ate me out then I sucked him off it was great anyway I hope my advice works !<3
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Rena-Chan is on the right track. The one thing about sex is it is a learned experience between two adults.
You just may be more clitoral in your sexual stimulation needs. Which is fine, there are many women like you. This is something you need to communicate to your boyfriend. We men learn most of our sexual techniques from magazines and porno films. They all show that a woman's sexual needs center on her vagina and nipples not her clitoris. The clitoris is mostly an after thought if mentioned or shown at all. In the porn films I've seen it is the women who stimulates her clitoris not the men.
Don't be afraid to tell your boyfriend of your sexual needs and he should not be afraid to tell you of his. Like anything else in our lives when it comes to it communication is key to success. So talk to each other and teach each other.
If you try anything that Rena-Chan suggested remember no means no and stop means stop. Also that both of you have to be consenting to whatever it is before you try something. Once one of you says no that is it you don't try it.
Now there is one other thing that could be inhibiting your sex life. If after you have spoken with your boyfriend and taught him how to stimulate you better, you are still not happy. Then I suggest seeing a therapist. There may be something in your past that is inhibiting you that is buried deep in your subconscious. This does not have to mean you were molested as a child. You may have seen something, like walking in and seeing your parents having sex. This is very traumatic for a young child. Whatever it may be it could be inhibiting you. With the help of a good therapist you can bring it forward and learn to deal with it.
I hope I have helped.
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Every woman's body is different. There's nothing to be feeling bad or upset about. It's not bad if you don't enjoy having your mate go down on you. As for vaginal climax, some women can climax vaginally, while others can only reach climax during clitoral stimulation, goodness, some women can even climax with just nipple play. As for enjoying sex more, it all really depends on YOU. Perhaps plain sex is not enough, perhaps you need to add something else or more into intercourse. Some people go to foreplay before intercourse, as some people add other things (Examples : SadoMasichism, Bondage, toys, etc.) Perhaps you are one of those types that just down right do not enjoy sex, I know some people like that, for reasons of their own, as each has a different one. Try adding other things into your "play time". Perhaps that can help you. If you feel uncomfortable going into an adult shop, then shop online. It won't show up as the site you purchased from, but as something else to keep your privacy. Try looking at other forms of positions as well, there are A LOT out there. Perhaps the positions you are currently trying are just not doing it for you. Also, as for Vaginal climax, it feels differently from clitoral climax. That I can tell you. As for how exactly it feels, that I cannot tell you, because I honestly believe every woman experiences those things differently. I hope things work out. Good luck!
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