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Crush giving sorta mixed signals?
Hey, thanks for taking the time to listen to me. I am terribly confused. I have a crush at school. He likes to talk to me, but I have to approach him first. Otherwise, he's with his friends. But today, I saw him EVERYWHERE I went unexpectedly. We are both rather shy people and we are only ourselves around our friend group. My friends are telling me to go for him, but I'm not sure. (We have been sorta friends since last year). Thanks. (If you need to know my age and gender, I'm 15 and a girl).
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As far as what to do about this guy, it's somewhat difficult. I would say try to just hang out as much as possible, and build a friendship and see where things go.
I want to make it clear that my advice is from MY personal experiences only and there are always exceptions. With that said throughout my life if a guy really likes a girl he'll do what he can to talk to her and be around her, no matter how shy he is.
I don't believe in telling girls to throw themselves at guys. Be polite, let them know you are interested, yes that's fine, but to be doing ALL the work, no.
I know it's so common for girls to be "independent" and "fierce,” which I am ALL for by the way. There are also guys who say, "Oh I like confident girls and girls that approach me." In my opinion though, get over yourself guys, and girls can be independent without being desperate. If you've ever seen a guy who is just completely into a girl, he will do WHATEVER it takes to be around her.
When I was 15, in high school there was a boy I had a crush on, but he liked someone else. He and I were friends and so we knew a lot about each other. His mom took his phone away, he told me at school since he didn’t have his phone he snuck out, and walked over five miles to get to a pay phone to call the girl he really had a crush on.
Therefore, my point is, if you like this guy I do encourage you to put yourself out there, BUT if he isn't making much of an effort at all, I don't care how "shy" he is, then move on and realize you deserve better.
IF he hasn't made a move yet because he doesn’t know how you feel then DEFINITELY let him know.
In short, make more of an effort to talk to this guy, try to hang out alone (or with friends if necessary) go to dinner, movie, bowling, etc. Be confident and bold and let the invitation to make his interest known as well, but if he doesn't reciprocate, just chalk it up to a friendship and find a guy who isn't so "shy" to show you how he feels. :)
I hope I answered that question appropriately, and could help/give perspective. Good luck, Hun! :)
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