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boyfriend of 3 years treats me bad.
hi. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and we've been living together for 2 of those years. in the beginning it was so different we never fought we were two young people in love now a days it seems just the opposite. I just recently got laid off of my job and I've been crucially searching for a new one. in this month that I've been out a job we have been fighting non stop. but it's mainly him yelling at me constantly over the stupidest things and making me cry and not caring. talking to him gets nowhere and he constantly threatens me saying he's not gonna deal with my shit for forever. I love him a lot or so I think. he's the one person that I've been with since I was 18 and he's always been the person I've seen myself marrying and having children with. I dont know how to leave or if I should. he's been spending more time in the other rooms of our house away from me. sometimes he's great
sweet takes me out and actually acts like he loves me but I don't know if it's jut because we've been spending more time together because I have no job or what. I've even gone as far as looking up ways to improve realtion ships and sex life. I do everything for him. and nothing works. I find myself crying myself to sleep and wishing things would go back to the way they use to be. he is bipolar and his mom and I talk about how he treats me and she doesn't understand why he is that way to me. she doesn't expect me to stay much longer cause she knows how bad things are.
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Honey im so sorry to hear this. But maybe this relationship ? Maybe it's been to much for him . Maybe he needs will both of you this sounds sad from the fact you said you love him snce 18. But also that may not be the case. He's probably feeling guilty or something happened to him. I recommend you two go to a couple therapist and just you know talk things out and ask him what's going on. Don't do everything for him also. This is probably giving him a sign saying YOU are his slave like he can take advantage of you . I hoped I helped and i hope u 2 work it out <3
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The sad truth is that you're probably just now getting to know the real him. When you start dating, people tend to be constantly on guard, making all choices depend on how the other person will react. Usually, after you move in you get so used to the other person that you stop paying such close attention and start acting like your real self. Sometimes people have anger issues that are too severe and this phase tends to be a relationship killer for them.
You said you tried everything, including talking to him, and it changed nothing. He will likely continue on this way until you make him stop. Tell him exactly how bad it is and that he needs to make a change in himself or he will lose you. After that, if he makes a solid effort to change or get help, good. If not, he's honestly not worth it and you should leave him. Either way, you shouldn't have to live like this.
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