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im pregnant and im not sure if i want to keep this baby
My baby daddy knows I'm pregnant,we both 17 and both our families want me to go for an abortion,I'm so confused...should I or should I not?I really need the support,I'm a mess and I feel the baby is the only thing keeping me sane,what should I go with,both our families decision or what I want?
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Hi there,
I am sorry you find yourself in this situation, and I just can't imagine how stressful it is when this is going on. :-(
The one thing I would like you to understand is that YOU are going to be the one who has to live with this decision. It is unfair of anyone to try and force you into an abortion, when you are the one who would have to carry the guilt, shame and self hatred of having an abortion.
They won't feel any of those things, and as such, while I understand they are your parents, they don't have the right to force you into this.
They don't understand that for most women abortion isn't something they do and then it is all over. It isn't. Over the years here on this site, we have seen many people asking about ways to deal with the terrible feelings they have about it even many years after having an abortion.
Please read my answer to this question for many details about this:
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If your parents knew the after effects and mental risks or being forced to have an abortion against your will... they wouldn't be doing this. They don't know what it would be like for you.
They think they are doing what is best for you, but they don't have to live with the consequences.
As for your baby daddy... his parents have NOTHING to say about this. Nothing.
I know it can be hard to stand your ground when people you love are telling you to do something, but both of us know that you already know what is right for you, and you feel it in your heart.
Whatever you decide, you have to live with it, so you have to make the choice.
If your parents won't listen (you are old enough, by the way, they can't legally force you to get an abortion as it is against the law) have them ask me a question about this and I will send them links to dozens of questions from girls your age who had abortions, and then tried to kill themselves or were thinking about it.
Your parents love you, they are just scared, like you, and in a panic to do what they think is best.
If they knew the results of what they were trying to do, they wouldn't be doing it.
The decision is yours.
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