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Moving countries with an 11 year old but very complicated...?
Sorry for making this so long but please help :D
Basically my mother is alcoholic. I've tried helping her - didn't work. So it is up to her to stop drinking but she decided not to. I don't live with her. I actually live with my father in UK and she lives in Lithuanian with my 9 year old half-sister. But to me - my sister is my life! I know how much she's suffering because i grew up watching my mother destroying herself. I actually took care of my sister since she was a baby. She even started calling me mum and her teachers at a primary school said that i am just like her mum because our REAL mum NEVER went to see any of my or my sisters plays, she was never interested in our health or education, i made sure that my sister was healthy and got proper education by taking her to the doctors and helping her with homework and i was only 8! But hopefully you get the idea how irresponsible my mother is. So basically I want to move to Sweden when I'm 18 (in 2014) to study there. I don't speak Swedish which is why i am going to study Swedish language and culture at Malmo university (of course if i get in :D ) I don't have a place to live yet but my uncle travels a lot so he'll give me advice on how to find a place to live,a job etc. And also i found a website where people from Sweden are offering a room or a house to live in (basically rent). But basically i want to take my little sister with me. She will be 11 then. I would take full responsibility for her just like i did when i was younger. Please don't tell me that I'm young and stuff because i know that. I will basically sacrifice my future for hers. To me she is more important.
Basically the things that's really bothering me (and it should bother me ) is that i wouldn't know what to do once i get to Sweden. Because i don't speak Swedish it would be even harder for me to sign her up for school. That's what i am worried about. She's young so she'll learn Swedish really quickly by being around Swedes a lot. That's how i learned English. Also things like health, getting a doctor etc. I know this will probably sound really stupid and unrealistic but it would be AWESOME to know a Swede who speaks English and who i could live with for 2-3 months just to settle down and also to get help from him/her/them. I need a person who would help me with my sisters school, getting a doctor etc. basically showing me what to do once i get there.Would it be possible to find a nice person who lives in Sweden and who would be kind enough to help me? I would obviously pay the person for the room,food etc.If yes then how could i find somebody like this? Are there any websites where i could ask for help and where people wanting to help would contact me? Swedish and Lithuanian culture is not that different so things like food and a few celebrations are very very similar so it wouldn't be hard to get used to that stuff.
Can somebody give me some advice? Anything will help. Just please don't start criticising because i know it's gonna be EXTREMELY hard for me but i would do anything for my little sister. All i'm asking is advice on how to move there with her ( i know how to move there by myself but it's different when you have a child with you), how to settle down there, how to get her to school, getting a doctor, people who could help me once i get there etc.? We don't have family or friends who live in Sweden just so you know. Thank you!
I'm 16 now by the way. I'll be 18 when i move there.
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To be honest, I think this may be illegal. I suggest seeking legal advice before you do anything.
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