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Torn between them...
There are 2 guys....let's call them J and K.
J is my bf of almost 5 months. He sees a future with me, kids, a house. He is a nice guy. Very sweet. But makes big mistakes in our relationship...like hanging out with girls, texting them, stuff like that. He says he loves me with allhis heart. But I honestly don't know.....J and K both hate eachother with a burning passion btw. Enough that J told meto stop talking to him. I've known J for 6 years. He seriously liked me ever since this year. Saying he wanted a future and stuff. Even though we've dated before and it hasent worked out. He never liked me like this when we dated last year.
K is my best guy friend. We tell eachother anything and everything. I've known him for 3 years. He liked me ever since me and him met. He's very sweet and caring of me. He says all the tim if someone hurts me, he will hurt them. Its so sweet. He says sweeter thinkg than J, and he's also nicer to me. But the catch is....K isn't a very good kid.....he does drugs, goes to juvy alot, and a bunch of other stuff. He said he was willing to stop for me. I asked J and K what they would do if I had to move away....their responses were
J-"be very sad and miss you a lot"
K-"run away with you, I wouldn't be able to stand not talking to you for the rest of my life"
Yeah, K also says that he will never leave me if we dated. He sayd that he would treat me right....like how a woman is sopposto be treated. J used to be a major manwhore....he used girls all the time. He sayd I'm different though. K said all J wants is sex and fighting....but idk......I'm just so confused right now....ive been told by tons of people that J and I are cute, but I've also been told Tht k and I would be cute......what should I do?!:'c
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My advice is short and ...well...maybe not too sweet. Frankly, I don't see either one of them as a desirable catch. K talks a good game, but it's easy to talk. It's easy to say that that he will stop the drugs and misbehavior for you, but it's hard to change a lifestyle, hard to permanently shake a drug habit. He doesn't appear to have any track record that would demonstrate his ability to live up to his promises.
J doesn't sound very mature, either. Now, maybe both of these guys will someday be fine, upstanding men (not the boys they are today) who have the strength and maturity to take care of their woman and their family, but they both have a lot of growing up to do before they can demonstrate their character with their actions and not just their words.
On the other hand, if K is in and out of juvy, I'm guessing you all are minors and you all have a lot of maturing ahead of you. That's not an insult, just reality. What this means is, there is no need to rush into things, and you have plenty of time to see what other choices of men there are out there before committing your life to any of them.
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Well you're in a tough situation. If you can't really trust your boyfriend with girls then you're never going to be happy. If he's still texting girls and all that, it needs to stop or you shouldn't be with him because it's just going to make you very unhappy.
Now with your best friend, he sounds like a really good guy except for all the drugs and going to juvy.
It doesn't matter what their responses were to you moving away. Saying something is one thing, doing is another.
Your boyfriend says you're different now and your best friend says he would treat you right.
See, all of this is just talk. You have no idea how it'd be with your friend and you're not happy with your boyfriend.
I think you shouldn't be with your boyfriend right now. You're too confused and you don't know what you want.
I don't think you should get with your best friend right away. He said he would stop doing all that dumb stuff for you so wait and see if he does.
Good luck!
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