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he wants a second chance
i am 28 i dated this guy for almost 3 yrs .all this time he didn't give me or this relationship much time n thought. so i suffered immensely.it was me calling up after a fight and me starting a conversation always.so i broke up with him 1month back .now he is calling me up and wants to get back.although he is a nice,sweet,loves me absolutely but i ma not sure if this didn't work out in 3yrs will he be able to do it now.moreover my parents are looking fora groom for me.they want me married by next year.should i give him a second chance?or is it smart and hard to just move on and try something that works naturally.moreover my parents are not too keen on him as my future husband.so advice!
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you've been with this guy for three years and he waited till after you dumped him to actually show he cares?! no no. How are you even suppose to know this guy isn't going to just go back to the way he was before that and just wait your time all over again? you don't, that's the problem. But this is a good thing it means he found out what he is missing, so just try casual dating to see if he did change. If you don't see a change within the first month, kick him to the curve and find someone who deserves you.
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Usually I have longer responses but this one is plain and simple.
If it's always you initiating contact and conversation, and you said yourself he didn't give you much time or thought, he doesn't love you absolutely. Let him go. He doesn't deserve your time or thought either.
I do believe people can change, but not that quickly. He doesn't realize what he had til it's over and that's why he's trying to get you back now -- because it's safe, it's comfortable. But that's not what makes for a lasting and loving relationship. Maybe in 5 years this guy will be different and figure out his mistakes, but you shouldn't hang around putting your life on hold for that long. Move on. You will find someone that absolutely adores you, that can't wait to call you, talk to you, spend time with you.
I wish you the best of luck and hope that you find love - in your own time and way! (Although parents can sometimes have a knack for finding the good ones).
~Pollux
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