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What do 16 year olds text about?
So I'm a sixteen year old girl and I just started having a texting conversation with this guy last night. We started at about eleven thirty pm and didn't end until three am.
At first we talked about our summer day camp that we're a part of. He's a activity leader and teaches me stuff and said that I was doing well. Then I got him to get rid of my annoying nickname. Soon he was asking me about my bedtime and how old I was. Then he asked my birthday and why I'm so shy. Eventually it got to him wanting me to tell him about myself. I didn't know what to say, and I told him that, but he said it wasn't hard. We then spent a half hour arguing that. I did finding something to tell him and he kept on texting "go on".
It got to a point where he was asking me questions like my sexuality, if I party a lot, if I drink or smoke, if I'm a virgin and what kind of girl I am. He ended up asking me what I looked for in a guy and he wanted me to ask him what he saw in a girl.
It doesn't make me uncomfortable, but normally I text about things that I like or want to do or about my writing or whatever to my normal groups of friends. But this guys says that I'm asking 13 year old questions and to start asking stuff that 16 year olds care about. I asked him what this was and he said "grownup questions" and "questions that you're normally afraid to ask" or "makes you think". He did get tired of asking me questions and said "jst tell bout urself so i will know wat kind of women i hav in my camp"
He keeps up bringing up conversations a while after we end them. Like, after we spent about three hours texting until three am, at eleven thirty am he started another conversation with me until one pm. Then around four we texted until nine. And he keeps on wanting to know about me.
Do sixteen year olds, and teenagers for that matter, really talk a lot about sex and drugs and partying? It seems like that's all he talks about. I don't want to offend him because he's my camp leader and he has a LOT of power over me and he's the main one who teaches me how to do everything right.
What do I talk to him about?
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no don't do that think about wt may happen not wt he want.you will be a mother
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Um, you don't talk to him about anything, because he's been creepy and trying to use his position as an instructor to make you talk about sexual stuff.
He is ABUSING the power he has over you as a camp leader. This IS sexual harassment.
Seriously - please take it from a girl a bit older than you - that is what he is doing here. It's unfair, cruel and in many cases, illegal.
The reason all he talks about is sex and partying, is because that is the game he trying to run on you. Most PEOPLE have more things (and more interesting things, like your writing, or your plans with friends) to talk about then that. When people only want to talk about that, it's because that's all they want from you.
The reason he only wants to talk about sex and parties with you, is because he is enjoying sexually harassing you. He's daring you to be 'more mature' with him, because he wants to get you to text him about sexual things. He is trying to get more and more sexual comments out of you. Lord knows how far he'll decide to go.
If I were you, I'd tell him to stop texting me and tell him you'll show the texts to his boss if he doesn't stop asking you personal questions about sex and sexuality.
I know it's scary to stand up for yourself against someone with power over you - but that is EXACTLY why he is doing this to you, because he has power over you. He might not understand how completely wrong this is. He might not mean to be abusive. But he is wrong, and it is abusive.
Tell him to stop. If he doesn't, tell an adult. Imagine if he is abusing his position like this with other girls. Maybe even young ones, and what he might be asking them to do or say to him, how they might not have the courage to tell him to stop either. You can help them (and him) by telling an adult to interfere and show this guy how not okay what he is doing is.
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