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hell at home
i have serious problem at home.my mother is constantly criticizing me. the moment the day starts she goes on from whatever errand i do..its never appreciated. everything has a flaw, u cud not clean it properly, u forgot to do this , to the point i borrowed her scarf, she got so possessive, wear like this it will spoil it. does not matter how i look. and if i want to do my way, i get abused, she starts blaming herself, banging everything, blaming her life, telling me what all she has done for us, and i can never measure up to her. i have to live like a robot in my house, i dont get any privelages like other kids i don't complain i never complained, if i asked for something and i dint get it, i never asked again, but this is too much..i cant take this critizing. i cant always be wrong. i feel so unappreciated...
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Well I think she's just fustraited with something but she loves you or she wouldn't let you live with her and have you tried to communicate because it's really important especially for mother and daughter just have a talk with her don't fight back with her on your "flaws" just tell her this is how I feel and I want this to change and that to change and ask her what she needs from you and wants from you but do it in a respectful tone... Hopefully this helps (: good luck!
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Have you tried to communicate your feelings to her? I know its difficult if shes always blaming herself at the end of the day because I know you don't want her to do that. But having a heart-to-heart (as hard as it can be) can really make a difference.
"Mom, I'm sorry I didn't do ______ right. But I'm trying to make you happy, and when you say things like that it really hurts me..."
I know its not easy.
She's your mom, and Im sure she only wants the best for you. Stand your ground in a respectful way.
Or the alternative is to move out, but I know thats probably not realistic, and that'll only make it worse from the sounds of it.
Im sorry you're having a hard time, but like I said, try and communicate with her in a respectful/nonagressive way, as hard as it may be.
xo
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