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Is the relationship worth it?
This is a very complicated situation so I'll try to keep it simple. I'm 19, my friend, Steven, who is 20 and his girlfriend, Michelle, who is 18, have had a very on and off relationship for a very long time. It's also long distance, but she lives relatively close. They would fight and say horrible things to each other. She has a child with him. My friend wanted me and his girlfriend to have a threesome, and eventually me and Michelle began talking and we admited we had feelings to each other. Steven's always told me how he would be fine with me being with her, that'd it would take a load off of his shoulders, etc. I wasn't sure what they really were at the time, but they broke up regardless and he found out she liked me. I asked his permission to date her and he said it was fine, just to be careful with her and so on but the next day he lost it. His mother brought him to a mental hospital where he stayed for a day because he feared she was a suicide risk.
Now, before me and Michelle really got together, I asked this other woman out a few days earlier, Amy. She turned me down because she wasn't ready for another relationship, but she wanted to know me better. She said she would be fine if I was with other women and we agreed to stay friends for then. Only a few days later me and Michelle started having interest in each other. She felt that I was just trying to sleep with her (which I wasn't) and I thought she calmed down, but eventually she cut off all contact with me. I know she's had previous issues with an ex who slept around so I guess it lead her to this. Now that's in combination with my friend, Steven, who I don't feel is in the right mind now and says he's fine with us being together, but still is unstable and is under watch from his mother. So that's two friends that are right now already damaged by this. I don't believe Steven is suicidable but he's not in a good way right now.
What I'm asking is if I should just cut off this relationship with Michelle, at least for now. I love her and she really loves me, but I don't want to keep having to deal with the constant strife and her already having a child is complicating matters further. My friends have stayed neutral for the most part but this is just a dark cloud over everything at the moment.
Thank you.
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I don't think this is a good time for her to be in a relationship. So yes you should avoid all contact for now.
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