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How to convince my parents to let me go to Europe
20/f
How can i convince my parents to let me go to Europe with my friend and her family? I've already mentioned that I'm a nursing student in college, with a 3.8 GPA, while i work 30 hours a week, I have my own money, so they wouldn't have to pay for anything, i've been studying european languages for years, I've never been outside the country. They know I'm a responsible person but they just have this HUGE thing with terrorism and planes and stuff. I just feel miserable like I work so hard can never get a break.
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If you are twenty one and paying for it yourself, then you just go.
You don't ask their permission, you tell them gently but firmly that you have this awesome opportunity and that you WILL be taking advantage of it.
Let them know you are open to hearing their concerns and making some reasonable compromises. Do they want you to check in frequently? Given that they are anxious that would be kind and respectful. Do they want all the info of your flights and where you are staying? Of course, that's only sensible. Would they like to meet the family and make sure you have good travel insurance? All right, arrange a dinner for the families and let them chat about the trip.
And when they say "You'll die!" or "You'll be bombed by a terrorist!" or some other stupid paranoid nonsense, DON'T argue with them. You can't argue them out of their irrationality. You might as well try to convince an insane man that the alien reptile people don't walk around us.
Instead of debating them when they make irrational comments or crazy demands, repeat calmly "I understand you have fears, but I've made up my mind. I am going." and "I am old enough to take these risks for myself. You need to respect my choice."
Because in the end, they do need to respect your choice.
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