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I have thought about this for a long time but I just don't know what to do.. Maybe you have a solution? I am a girl, 16 years old. I am beautiful, well lots of people say so. I just feel insecure about my body and personality. I only feel good with the right clothes and the right make up. I have never really had a real boyfriend but lots of flings, one night stands and stuff. Lots of boys disappointed me and broke my heart. Not only boys, lots of friends did the same. They dumped me for someone better and just left me. When I was younger I was naive and gave my heart away easily. But now I don't really dare to have a real boyfriend or a real date because I am afraid they don't like it if they really get to know me. And I just don't know if I can take it anymore, those heartbreaks. It hurts so bad, I really hate love. I build up walls so no one can see how I feel about them, but still; I feel lost. So there have been boys I really like but I am just too afraid they will hurt me, so I just tell them I am not looking for anything serious. But when I hear they have a girlfriend I am totally crushed. I know it's stupid, because I have pushed them away myself. I really hate myself for being such a drama queen, I know lots of people have it so much worse, but I can't help the way I feel, I guess. So what do you think, should I first work on myself, on my confidence or just take a risk and not think about the consequences?
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I know how you feel I've been there and done that. Heck I'm still working on trying to be more confident in myself. No matter what my friends or boyfriend says I sometimes don't believe in myself like they do its weird. When I was 16 I was in the same boat but never got a boyfriend because I was either scared or I had no interest. One thing I've learned is that you have to take risks. If you don't then you'll never experience anything and you're only limiting yourself. Risk sometimes unfortunately comes along with hurt and no one likes hurt. It's better to have feelings and experience then feel nothing at all and isolating yourself from everyone. I've put my heart out on the line many times and I've been both rejected and hurt. It's not fun. After being hurt though, I eventually get back up again and move on. Just because things don't work out doesn't mean its your fault it just means it wasn't meant to be. You need to be comfortable with you and how you feel about the situations. Be positive and confident in yourself. Take risks and take the opportunities that come before you. That doesn't just go for boys it goes for the things that might come your way in life. If you don't take a risk, instead you're going to be dealing with regret. Good luck and keep your head up!
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