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boyfriend issues
So ive been off and on with this boy for 3 years. We have had to overcome a lot of obstacles but i really love him and he says he feels the same way.
Right now hes in a halfway house seeking treatment but has been clean for 3 months. Weve been long distance for about a year and a half now but have had one longer break up of about 4 months. Hes 21 and im 20.
So he came up to visit last weekend and i was a little skeptical about it. We werent officially dating or anything and were basically gonna get back together when he felt he could handle a relationahip. Well he came and visited and it was amazing. No fighting, got along great, and were mostly smiling. Although the first night he got here i talked to him and basically told him i wanted a happy HEALTHY relationship and if he didnt think he could give it to me then we shouldnt be together. He said there was no way he could lose me and was gonna try and work harder. My whole problem with this relationship is i never hear from him...he never calls. Barely responds to texts. I know hes bad about phones...but this is oong distance.. and im feeling underappreciated. :/ he has a whole new life now and i feel like i know nothing about it because he never calls to check in.
My question is what do you guys think of this situation? I love him ALOT and thats why ive been so loyal these difficult times. But i really was serious when i said i wanted something healthy and happy. He hasnt called and he left monday. Tuesday he sent me an i love you but that was it..can he ever show me what i need? Cause talkin to him doesnt seem to get my point across. But if its something that will pass cause of the recovery process i dont mind being a little patient cause the idea of losing him hurts :/ but i dont wanna be waiting aroubd for nothing...please any advice would be greatly appreciated. Im really depressed :(
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Well because you really love him you want to be 110% sure he does too. Im thinking you should probably wait it out just a little longer and see what happens since you do t know if it is past of the recovery process or not and that kind of stuff takes time. But do not wait too long because you said you want a happy healthy relationship and if you aren't getting that then you need to show him that you were serious about it and maybe once he figures you are adamant wanting a healthy relationship he might work even harder to try and give you that
But for now wait it out just a little longer and tell him how you feel because communication is key to happy and healthy.
I hope I helped and I'm here if you ever have to talk
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