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Is it considered cheating?
Yeah. I understand what you're saying. But I dont like it but I want him happy...but what would you do if you were in this situation?
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Relationships are all about compromise. Sometimes one person has to give something up to make the other person happy. If all the sacrifice is on one side, it's not a healthy relationship.
Try looking at it with another, hypothetical, example.
If you wanted children and your boyfriend didn't, you would have some serious issues. If you didn't have children, you would go through life miserable because it's one of your highest priorities. If you did have children, he'd be miserable because he's saddled with extra responsibility, taking care of children he never wanted in the first place. Sure, one of you could sacrifice to make the other happy, but it's a really, really big sacrifice to make. In that case, you'd probably just say "Okay, we have different priorities in life and won't be able to work in harness", and you'd go your separate ways.
In this case, he's okay with fooling around on the side and you aren't. If it's so important to him that he will force you to sacrifice your happiness in order to keep the relationship going and keep his extra nooky, you're probably not going to work well together in the future. This isn't either of your fault. You just have fundamentally different values, and that can be a dealbreaker for relationships.
All of that said, if I were you I would have a good talk with him. Tell him it's a dealbreaker for you to have him carrying on like this. Set clear boundaries as to what you're okay with and what you're not. Let him explain his side of things, but remain firm and let him know how awful it makes you feel when you're left behind while he fools around. If he refuses to let his something on the side go even though he knows it makes you unhappy, he might not be the best life partner. In that case, I would move on and find someone who was more compatible with me.
Non-monogamy works for some people. For others, not so much. Relationships between both types often fail for these reasons.
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