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Playful sex life
My boyfriend and I have been in a three year old relationship, and we have been sexually active for two years.
Our sex life is very good and often playful.
However, every now and then my boyfriend is in the mood of me being in control of him and being more "bossy". I'm up for it, but I always feel like I'm not sure how to be on top and in control.
What are some moves I could use besides pinning his arms up, and not letting him touch me the way he would like to?
Any suggestions would be appreciated :)
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Sex is a learned event. To be good especially in a committed relationship like you have you need to communicate.
I think your boyfriend may have some idea of what he wants you to do when your in control. He may be reluctant to ask of you what he desires for fear that you may reject his desires.
So my first suggestion is to communicate with each other what your fantasies might be. To agree that nothing is weird. That if you are both agreeable you will try something but you will not in anyway try to force or coerce the other in to trying something the other feels is a turn off for them.
When it comes to sex what happens in the privacy of your bedroom is not weird as long as you are both comfortable in doing so and no one is truly hurt by what you do. Everyone has fantasies especially when it comes to sex. Those fantasies run the gamut from Bondage and discipline to water sports. As I said as long as the both of you are agreeable there is nothing wrong with them as long as they remain in the privacy of your bedroom and neither of you are truly hurt.
This is where communication and trust come in. If you truly love one another and trust each other. Then you need to talk to each other about your desires and how you want to fulfill them and increase you sex life together. Guessing at what your partner may want is not the way to go about this. Asking him and agreeing in advance that nothing will be considered deviant is. You don't have to agree to it just be respectful that he isn't weird in his fantasy or you in yours.
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