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shady girl. at my wits end! help!
my boyfriend and i have been together for a year
weve only started fighting the last couple of months, and its always over the same thing...or the same person i should say.
basically when i first started talking to him before we were dating he was sleeping with his best friend and another girl.
anyway since the day we started dating, neither of these two girls have been happy with the outcome. and for the first couple of months they backed off.
however one of them, the one that used to be his best friend, has been texting him and wanting to meet up with him and stuff....
i dont trust her, shes a very very shady girl. shes in love with my boyfriend and has gone through dozens of guys trying to find what she had with my boyfriend, but nothing compares to him.
ive had NUMEROUS people ring and call me and warn me of this shady girl and her behaviour, but i suspected most of this already. especially since she slept with him 2 days after he got out of a 5 year relationship a year and a half ago. Ive never been able to deal with there friendship because i know its not innocent on her part.
i hate going on facebook and seeing her calling him babe and saying how she misses him and everything when she doesnt even say that to her 'boyfriends'.
then tonight, i log onto facebook to see a picture of her all cuddled up against my boyfriend. way to close for comfort for me. They seriously look like a couple, and he wont even get couple photos with me.
it doesnt help her caption reads " the one that means the most <3"
The only reason i wasnt there tonight to keep an eye on her was because im stuck at home increadibly sick :c
i can never seem to deal with her and her obsession with MY boyfriend. i seriously think maybe i need counselling or something to help me with what to do or how to deal? because i just have no clue how to handle this.
its causing so SO many problems for us, its all we fight about and he says he considers breaking up with me because it happens so often.
help
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Honestly, it's not just the girl. I mean like you sound SHE LOVES HIM. So if anything your boyfriend probably knows that and has been taking advantage of her. And i'm telling you right now if he can take a cuddled up picture pose with her and not even one couple pose with you, you have a problem. And if he can't take the time out to think about why they maybe shouldn't be friends, you got a problem. Dump him. it's not even worth it.
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Newsflash Hun: This 'friendship' was never innocent on HIS part either.
You might want to consider breaking up with him, if you can't handle this friendship, and HIS behavoir in this friendship.
'Cause lets be serious: The bigger problem is not that she cares for him, wants a close friendship with him (and maybe wants a relationship that is too close). The bigger problem is that your boyfriend isn't shutting it down, establishing respectful boundaries and have a friendship with her that respects the fact he has a romantic relationship.
If you can't respect how your boyfriend is choosing to manage his friendship with this girl, break up with him.
If you can't be happy with how the friendship he feels is acceptable, break up with him.
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