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how to tell her, if i should tell her
okay, long story short, i'm in a weird place right now with my boyfriend's sister, we used to be closer friends but i've distanced it because i've just been busy with work, trying to have a life with him and trying to go new places in my life and i've felt she was not one of the best people to bring along into it, there's been lots of issues with her. i understand she'll always be around, that's why i've kept it friendly and always will but now there's just this weirdness in the air with seeing eachother all the time, then not and being closer friends, then not.
but so the situation is is that we have lots of mutual friends and one of these friends asked me to go on a trip with her to see this band we both like and i said yes. now the weeks have gone by and i haven't informed my friend of this, i kinda feel bad, like i should but i honestly don't feel the need to tell anybody else, its just her (she'll get pissed she wasn't invited to something, like why did I get invited over her, etc.) i just try not to make her upset cause i don't want it to affect my boyfriend and i's relationship in any way (she's refused to speak to him for months when she hasn't liked a girl he's dated, etc.)
and since we no longer talk alot, very very casually, (i never talk to people on the phone) i haven't really had a way to bring it up to her without it sounding completely random and kind of "hey im shoving this in your face" cause the only thing i can think of right now is just to call her or text her and be like,"i just wanted to let you know im going here in two weeks with so and so, so you know." that just sounds/feels stupid.
should i even bother doing that, or just go and deal with the blows when i get back? i've thought about just telling her when i get back that i didn't want to sound rude and like i was throwing it in her face and wasn't sure how to tell her, so i didn't? help!
it drives me nuts that my boyfriend and everyone else could care less if i go or not, didn't even have to bother telling half of them, its only her.
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No, don't go out of your way to tell her. It's very unlikely this will cause a problem with you and your boyfriend, no more than what she usually does anyway and he's probably used to her drama by now! It will sound weird if you tell her out of the blue you are going away for a couple of weeks. It's not like you tell all your not-so-good friends & acquaintances every time you book a trip.
Are you friends with her on Facebook? Maybe change your status to "excited about my trip with X to see Y" or whatever. Then at least the sister will know where you are, without there being a big confrontation about it.
Otherwise you might try dropping it into conversation without making the conversation JUST about your trip. Like mention you've bought a new top which you will wear while you're away and she'll be like "oh, you're going away?" and you can say "oh gosh didn't I tell you yet, I thought I told *everyone*!" etc etc. It's a bit underhanded but she might let you off :)
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