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Why is he different when we are around his friends, and should this be a warning sign?
Hi, I'm 14/f and there is a boy I like and I'm not sure if he likes me back...
When we're alone, he would be sweet, flirty & giggly (& a little sexual which is just him kidding... I think) but in front of people he'd be not exactly mean, but he wouldn't look at me or talk to me like he does when we're alone. He won't make fun of me but he'd scoot away as if I did something wrong. He'd ignore me when I call his name, & I don't want to annoy him so I just move away when his friends come in and smile at him :) I can tell by the look on his face and his eyes that he doesn't want me to move away but he doesn't say anything, in fear that he will be made fun of again. Isn't that so cute?
People also make fun of us a lot because I usually go over and sit next to him in class and he would be flirting and all that and his friends would come in and be like "awe you guys are so cute together, you'd make a cute couple" then I'd blush and look away. But on the other hand, he'd not be so happy about it. He just completely shut down. The smile goes away from his face, he won't look at me, & all I do is just move away because he gets mad after a while (but I'm not sure because there was this one time when he was mad when he came into class & then his friends started to make fun of us was when he got mad, so I'm not really sure if he was mad at me at first, (if any of this even makes sense)) and the last thing I want is for him to be mad at me.
I have been thinking about putting a cute little note in his locker, and I know what I want to say (in general) I just don't know exactly how to say it. I want to ask him to wait for me so we can talk after school, but I don't know exactly how to word it. Just in case you were wondering what I wanted to talk to him about, I wanted to ask him why he was doing this. Is this a bad idea?
Should this be a red flag?
What does it mean when a guy does this?
Is it possible that he likes me?
How should I word my note?
If I shouldn't do the note at all, how should I approach him about it?
Thank you all in advance!
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He probably is a good guy in all but how he is treating you is ass. It's kinda like he is embarrassed to like you or is hiding it. Sit him down and ask him about it, because a guy who likes you would want to claim you as his. And he is doing the exact opposite.
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Well, I know exactly how you feel, my boyfriend of now 2 years did that once. To start off, you need to let him know how you feel. Let him know you need to talk to him face to face and be calm about it. When you write a note he will never know your expression and will wonder if he did something horrible. Make it casual, when you get a moment just say "I need to talk to you about something do you mind hanging out after school? I really need to talk to you about it, ok?" And make sure you say it calmly and friendly, don't be jumpy or he will set up his guard and completely shut you out. If he says no then look disappointed, sigh and say something like "Oh, ok. I guess it didn't really matter that much anyway." This will make him feel guilty for turning you down. But if he says yes then after school tell him "I have been wondering why you act so different around other people, it has been bugging me a little bit and I just want to know. You know, I doesn't really matter what people say about us because they aren't the ones who are in control of the situation, we are. Don't worry about it, who cares what people thin or say." Give him spaces in-between the sentences for thing to register and for him to reply if he has one. He will get that you are worried about how it is effecting your relationship and decide whether he is going to let what people say to get to him or if he is going to ignore it and have fun with you.
and just to answer all your question:
1.Not a red flag.
2.It usually means that he is scared in some way or he, in situations not at all like you, could be mad.
3.If he is very flirty then yes it is very possible that he likes you.
4.No note, he needs to know you are calm about the situation and that he doesn't need to freak out or worry.
Hope I helped :) best of luck.
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