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nervous about sex
i been with my boyfriend for a while now.. i wanna have sex but im scared.. we make out alot and we have "fun" .. i never seen his dick and he's never seen my vagina but still like i wanna loose my virginity with him .. do my clothes come off first?? how can i make things funner?? is it going to be awkward afterwards?? ect. Help me please?
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Sex is something very special and you need not worry about making it more fun then it already is.
As for what to do when the time comes, you will know what to do as sex is a natural part of life and is not something that you can or should plan.
That being said, let me say this. You sound quite young. Maybe to young to be thinking of having sex. For sex to be fun, especially for the girl, there needs to be three things. First you need to feel safe. So you need to be someplace where no one will disturb you or walk in on you. You need to be comfortable. This means that you should be in a bed, not on a couch in someones basement. Part of being comfortable is being nude. How you get there is part of the fun or foreplay of sex. You need to feel secure. Now safe and secure are somewhat synonymous. In this case secure means you have been on birth control for at least 30 days and your boyfriend uses a condom.
Remove any of these three points and your first time will not be the beautiful thing it should be. In fact the older you are, the more mature you are the better it will be. while your body may be capable of sex; if you are a young teenager you are still not mature enough to fully understand the responsibilities of the act and enjoy it as it should be enjoyed.
Now some parents tell their children the facts of life differently. Some just say don't do it and don't give reasons. I believe if you put reason to something it takes the mystery out of it. I believe sex is a beautiful thing that becomes more beautiful if you wait until your old enough to fully enjoy what sex is meant to be.
It would be great to wait until your married to have sex. There are teenagers to day that are waiting. That is something you have to decide. All I ask is that you not be in a hurry to lose your virginity. Please trust me when I say if you wait it will be a more meaningful experience in a few years when both you and your body are mature enough to appreciate it.
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I've never experienced it, but I do know what to do:
Don't be nervous. What you want to do is say "Lemme go to the bathroom first, k?" then come out like how they do in the movies xD ahahaha. Inappropriate, I know. But just trust me. I hope everything goes well, and I hope I helped!:)
-Bella Thorne
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