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Should I tell her I admire her and lie and say we never met?
Hi, I ve read your answer about one guy's problem with letting know that he loves a girl over the distance. If you help me out as well, i ll appreciate that.
There is a girl, who is 20 and i befriended her on fb. I used to be with her in the same school thats how i saw her, it was a love at first sight. Then, she never knew me and i couldnt tell her about my feelings, because i am a trans-man. But over 5 years i cannot stop thinking about my strong feelings towards her. I know we could have a chance in a long run, but i live now thousand miles from her and she just recently asked me over fb - how do i know her.
Should i tell her that i admire her or should i say that we never met and i want to get to know her better and tell more about myself if she is interested, of course.
Thanks a lot.
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The person you meant to send this too probably doesn't accept direct questions (or doesn't accept direct questions form people who are not registered).
Just tell her the truth of how you know her.
Tell he you went to school together and you remember she seemed cool/awesome/whatever word works for you. If you want a conversation, ask her what she is up to these days.
HOWEVER, having feelings like "I know we could have a chance in a long run..." with a person you have never spoken too, who is a thousand miles away, and who you haven't even seen in five years - that's not a rational approach to a conversation with her. That's a fantasy. Fantasies are fine, but other people are not necessarily going to appreciate them or fulfill them.
A rational approach is to keep a cool head and ask her about herself, and share about yourself, to see if you on are the same page.
Remember: You wont be on the same page with MOST people in the universe. You have very, very little reason to believe this woman - who you basically don't know at all - will be a long term match for you. That doesn't mean you can't strike up a conversation, but be realistic and respectful about it.
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