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Putting my all into him for nothing.
Hi, So there's this one guy I'm friends with, and we both like each other, but the problem is I give him my all. If i know he has a big test or something exciting is happening in his life I make the effort to text him and wish him luck or to see how it went. I always make an effort to text him occasionally to see how things are going. But he NEVER does that for me. He only texts me once ever few weeks to see how I am but its just a short conversation. I really really love him as a friend and a little more than a friend. And I give him my all and I feel like its not appreciated and ignored. I don't want to talk to him about it because he doesn't HAVE to be my friend or do the things I do and I don't want to sound needy. Any suggestions? Thanks:)
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You are human. You are allowed to be human. Human beings have needs, emotional and relationship needs.
It doesn't make you needy to admit that you need shit sometimes.
The big problem here, as I see it, is not that your friend has different needs and expectations than you do. Lots of people manage to have friendships like that. I have tons of friends where I tend to do a bit more work and pay more attention than they do, and I'm sure I have friends who feel that way about me. It can be frustrating, but most friendships survive that.
The big problem is that you feel 'more than a friend' about this guy and when he doesn't take the extra little steps to care for your friendship - it becomes painfully obvious he don't appear to feel anything 'more' about you.
So stop torturing yourself. Either tell him you feel a bit more for him and take the plunge, or back off and see if you can establish a friendship that meets both of your needs better. One where you aren't working so hard, and getting disappointed.
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