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i need advice! i am scared to go down on my boyfriend
I have been with my boyfriend for seven months and I love having sex with him, but lately he has asked for oral.
And I want to do it but I am just scared to do the wrong thing
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As long as you are comfortable with it, there shouldn't be a problem. For one thing you need to make sure you do not have an over-sensitive gagging reflex or it just won't work and try and figure out how far is too far (everyone is different and alot depends on size which I don't know)
There isn't really much that can go wrong, however it is an act that requires some communication to find out what is comfortable for you and what is pleasurable.
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First things first. You have not said how old you are so I hope you are old enough to be having adult type sexual relations and taking proper precautions.
As for oral sex. It is understandable that something you have never done before would be something you would have concerns over. My rules concerning sex are important to my answer to you so allow me to first explain my rules.
When it comes to anything about sex I believe that as long as both partners are CONSENTING, there is nothing that can or should be considered weird. What goes on in the privacy of ones bedroom is for their enjoyment and of no one else's concern.
The operative word her is CONSENTING. If either partner is turned off by something the other wants to do you don't do it. If the partner who has concerns about something agrees to try something and then anywhere during says stop; you stop as from that point forward it is RAPE. As long as both partners understand this you can have a good and healthy sex life.
How do my rules effect your question: Simple you would like to please your boyfriend but are concerned you will not please him or possibly even hurt him. These are valid concerns. There is a great deal of information you can learn from the web by entering something like; "How to give oral sex to a boy," in to a search engine. A great deal of information will be returned some with diagrams. Some will tell you to practice with different objects such as fruit or certain vegetables.
After reading up on the basic information of the how to do so is where my rules really come in to play. You tell your boyfriend you have never given a boy oral sex. That your willing to try and that he needs to teach you.
This is were another rule I have about sex comes in. Communication: If you are going to have an enjoyable sex life then you have to communicate your likes and dislikes to your partner. Maybe you are a gal that is more clitoral than vaginal. If I am your boyfriend how am I to know this as the majority of women are vaginally turned on. You need to communicate these things to me and let me explore your body and tell me what you like and don't like.
The same goes for your partner. Some men have very sensitive nipples. This does not make them strange but it is something they get pleasure from by having their nipples pinched and sucked on during sex. If I'm one of them and I don't tell my partner how is she to know.
Communicating is the most important thing we do in our lives. Do not be embarrassed to tell your boyfriend you have never done this. Tell him so and tell him you want to try and please him. I think he will be very pleased that you want to try and that you trust him to teach you.
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